I have just read through all my posts and i have to say my opinion has really changed, there is now no doubt in my mind this cat is being neglected and i have pm'd you all with the update, will keep you all posted, thanks for you continued support, i won't sleep easily tonight, but a part of me knows i have now made the right decision, no matter how hard that decision was and it does not rest well with me, but it is the only thing i could do.