Originally posted by Lalania
thousands of skin kids that need homes. I believe the decision to NOT procreate to be one of the ultimate SELFLESS decisions a person can make.
I for one, completely agree. I mean, why should I add yet another child to the world for selfish reasons? My husband and I are going to adopt when we have the financial means to do so...I know my opinion on adoption isn't popular and I really couldn't care less. Its what I feel is right, after all, I've seen first hand how many children are "thrown out" and need parents. I also know that we may possibly be adopting a child (or children) that are not white, like my hubby and I are. Many may think this is wrong (a few at our Thanksgiving table thought so). What's wrong is allowing these children to grow up without families...
Another thing that just annoys the heck out of me...people's oposition to ME saying that my hubby and I are going to adopt! You wouldn't beleive the negative response we've gotten! Amazingly selfish people...
I disagree. Having children is like having a dog, or a car, or a big house, IMO ... if you can afford it, great, have one ... have three or four. If you can't afford it, then make plans and better yourself, work hard until you CAN afford it ... then have a kid or get a dog or buy a car. That's basic common sense to me ... if you can't feed it, don't have it. I work for a living. I'm a single parent. I have never taken a penny of public assistance funding. I support myself and my child. It was my choice to have a child, therefore I should pay for him. It wasn't anyone else's choice for me to have a child ... why should I expect other people to give me money for something I chose to do? We all need to take responsiblity for our own actions, and their consequences. Even if wanted to have three or four kids, (which I don't!), I couldn't afford to, and therefore I wouldn't have them. I wouldn't go ahead and have them and expect someone else to pick up the tab. How is that fair?
Amen sister! I couldn't have said this any better!!! I agree totally and completely.

We all are in control of our lives....we have the power to change our circumstances AND attitudes.