I don't think you are being unreasonable. You have some concerns that need to be addressed and resolved.

I think you are rushing this. Take your time choosing a cat or two. One might choose you down the way a way and it will work. I've only chosen a cat once. The other 4 are rescues, so to speak.

AS for outsides cat - outside is dangerous. Perhaps you can find a cat that hasn't been out much and prefers indoors. My Jane was a throwaway who found her way to my porch. She refuses to go out and moves away from the door when I open it.

What do you mean by "all window and doors MUST be opened?" Do you have screens or are other animals and assorted bugs allowed to wander in? And you can buy screens to fit in open windows that have no outside screen.

AS far as cats wanting outside - Sometimes cats think they want outside. Spunky and Sam think they want outside. They love the window view and love chasing bugs. But outside is not safe. I say 'no', and they have learned to accept it.

Have you ever seen a bird dive-bomb a cat? The birds might be prey but they come with defenses.

I have invested in cat trees indoors. It gives them plenty to do and allows them to be up high without damaging my furniture.

Take your time. It will work towards yours and the cat's benefit.

Quote Originally Posted by tokolosh View Post
I'm placing this in the rescue forum because I do feel strongly about choosing a shelter or rescue cat, and because I figure experienced rescue people will be able to offer the best advice, insight, suggestions etc.

. . . . . I also feel better with someone who's got some 'outside' smarts. Not that I'd sling the cat outside and close all the doors if it wanted to stay inside all its life, but we live at ground level, and windows and doors MUST be opened. So anyone we get will have access to the great outdoors, and I'd rather it knew what the great outdoors is. But at the same time I feel like we need a cat who WILL bond with us once we take it. If I had one of those walkabout cats who vanish for days or weeks at a time I think I'd fret myself down to the bone. Again, things to look for?

. . . . . .being unreasonable.

Thoughts? Experiences, anecdotes, insights? Advice?