Richard, I'm so sorry to read about your mom.
*Sigh* All the women on my mom's side sound exactly like your mom and most of their illnesses could have been less dramatic if they practiced what they preached.

I got the brunt of caring for my parents and, now, a 90 year old aunt in a nursing home and her 95 y.o hubby who lives alone. But that's OK. You'll have no regrets. I like to say I'm the "good kid"

My prayers are with you.