Gayle - please give a call to Al-Anon. If this guy has a history of drinking, quitting on his own will be 'white-knuckle', and he will snap at some point and go on a bender if he is a real alcoholic.

One option - just a suggestion - is to go live on your own til he proves he is recovered and sober. If he can stay sober for a year, that is a good sign.

But - my question - why stay with someone who already has hurt you physically, and badly? I get a bad feeling because I don't think you posted that he was back...because you felt uneasy? Because we would get upset here on PT? There is a good reason we would get upset, hon.

JMO - you are living with a time bomb.

You went thru hell with this guy before, and I hope staying there is NOT one option you are considering.

I hope you are weighing your options with the help of a counsellor, women's centre, or other.

hugs!