Kim, your granddaughter is beautiful and she deserves a better life than the one your daughter would give her. Perhaps this man tried his best to help her (I say 'perhaps' because I'm always suspicious of older men who step in and take over) but all it did was enable her to keep doing the same thing over and over again. My late sister behaved in the same manner. At 15, she married a 42 year old man, had 2 kids right away and ran away at 17, so my parents ended up w/her kids until her husband decided he wanted them. Then when he got tired of them, he'd show up in the middle of the night at our house and the same drama started all over again. My sister never did grow up; she was estranged from her kids until they became adults and they're all dysfunctional as a result of their so-called upbringing. She died at the age of 57, married for the 4th time, and still at that age hadn't learned a thing. Be glad that the other grandmother has stepped in and is giving your granddaughter a chance at a good, drama-free life. I'm sorry that you're going through this. It's tough, I know. I was only 7 years old when it all started for my sister and I can recall it all as though it happened yesterday. Just focus on what's best for your granddaughter, love your daughter but don't enable her, and do what's best for yourself, too.