Jen, depends on who you ask. I have not seen him do one thing or give one thing for the baby. Its one thing I told her that bothers me - that he hasn't given her even one rattle or bib. Maybe we're not giving him enough credit since he's not very expressive when he's here; I'll have to go by what Ashley says about him......

Ashley on the other hand says he gets insulted and feels left out of all the baby stuff. She says he wants to be a part of it and got very hurt on Sunday at the shower when everyone was oohhhing and aahhhing over her and the baby, and basically ignored him.

I am happy that he wants to be there and wants to be a part of the baby's life. Apparently his own father is not there, and he wants to be different and be there for the baby. VERY admirable. I just wish the rest of the family saw and heard those sentiments from him.

Kuhio, thanks for your opinon! I really do need to see both sides of the story. Whether or not dad and mom are together, dad will ALWAYS be in the picture and we'll always make sure he gets the baby. Just because he has or doesn't have hte father's last name would never change that.