Richard,
I am in YOUR Corner on this issue!!!!
as Bill Cosby said...."You are My Child,I can bring You Into this world,and I can Take You Out!!!!"
The Minute a Mother Knows she is Pregnant,Her Whole Life must Change!!!She must be "Pro-Active' in these situations...Because a 3 week old baby CANNOT fend for themselves....
So when YOU Elect To Have a Baby....You must Weigh ALL Positives and Negatives...and figure What is Best For YOU & Your Lifestyle!!!
And If YOU can Handle it!!

Just a Thought