Hair help - is my makeover hopeless?

[sirrahbed]

I think I am hopeless. In April, I had my long hair cut to chin length and nice foilhighlights added. I came home all glamorous..

But, the hair in my face drives me nuts and this is how I ended up wearing it - pulled back with a frumpy headband...

I am going back in today to get a haircut and more highlights and this is how I look again...

Headband always!! I LOVE how it looks part way in my face and think I look nice that way - but HOW can I get used to it? Is there a product that isn't too stiff that will help hold it? Mousse? Spray? What? Do I just have to get used to it?? My hair is babyfine and I have to wash it everyday. Am I hopeless?? I am not ready to go to anything too short - have always had LONG hair and am trying to look my age (well sort of ) I took several years to grow bangs out to all one length...but am considering bangs again. Never really liked them though.
HELP!!

PS: My 51st birthday is coming in a few weeks and maybe I am feeling old? I really want to try and look like I am not out of the American Gothic painting