Kim I wish you guys would consider the outward bound program It's simular to what you diid with son, but it challanges the teen to "servive " but doing some really tough things such as hikes, rope climb and outdoor stuff. they get their confadance and learn how to communicate. I'll try to find the web site. One of my girl freinds was a guide and instructor for 15 years says she never had a teen not be changed after completeing the program .
www.outwardbound.com I thing if $$$$ is a problem they have scholarships, but how much is it worth to get her going on the right path?