Good assessments, ladies!! I didn't respond earlier because I felt I couldn't, having not read it. Now I have. The guy must be a slob......as bad of a housekeeper as I am, I am fastidious about keeping the litter box clean. She's grossed out by cats on the counter and the table, knowing that they have been scratching around in a dirty litter box. Can't say I blame her for that. My cats aren't allowed all over the counters and table.

BUT.....seems like she worded her question in a different way than I would have. I would have been asking "how can I get him to see and smell this house?". Or is this sign of the "real him"? "How can I help him to understand that these cats need training if I'm going to be able to live with them?" Anyway, she didn't look beyond the cats for a solution to the problem.....like retraining or offering to help him work with them. And I agree, Ann Landers was pretty flip in her response.