What a sad situation on many levels. I too can relate - sometimes things families do to one another is unforgivable. Even though we talk to hubby's sisters, I would love to disown them based on things they did to us the year we got married.

I hope the internal hurt inside your husband heals and that he comes to peace with whatever it was that hurt him. I hope your inlaws family has peace to move on after the loss of their husband and father.