First time I married was 1975. I changed my name then because everybody did. It was not allowed then to keep your name I only could have hyphenated. I didn't want to do that because if you travel a lot and then have these hyphenated names especially if they are German which makes it more difficult to spell for everyone.

Then after I divorced I kept that name. I was already working and I didn't want to tell everybody: I've changed my name. No it's not what you think. I didn't marry, I divorced I thought I was still the same person, whether I had my dad's name or my first husband's. Plus, the name I have now sounded better.

Then I was living with my now husband for 16 years. When we married we definitely felt nobody will change his name. And that's as it is.