Do you make friends easily?

[DJFyrewolf36]

Well, I don't have a lot of really close friends...I have lots of "buddies" for some reason. *People I know and sometimes see when they want something. But most of them will be glad to return the favors* I am kind of shy but find it easy to babble with people I just met. Usually that puts people off because I act like I've known them for years lol. Im the master of small talk!

In high school, I was really a loner but I hung out with the same group all throughout...I go off to college for a year and found out that they all dissapeared! . For about a year after I got back I had NO friends at all. Then I met John (hubby) and found out that he was friends with some people that I was close to in high school lol! It was funny the first time he took me to meet his friends, and it turned out they were the people I knew too *I dated his adopted brother in high school and was good friends with him at the time*

Now I live with some of my best and closest friends. Its more like a family thing now. I treat the people I am friends with like family and treat aquatences like friends *Until they do something mean to me or my family that P**es me off* I'm just that way.

I used to have a ton of online pals, but my computer went down for about two months and I couldn't find any of them anymore. I am kinda close with a couple of people here on PT *ya know who you are * but I haven't been here all that long. Im just going to give it time!

[lizzielou742]

I guess I make friends fairly easily. I was on my high school dance team (www.butlerkickline.com) and in a sorority at college (http://www.geocities.com/sherilynaopi/ukaoii) so those two experiences really forced me to learn how to get along with other girls. I just moved to Louisville in December, and so far really haven't made that many new friends here, but that's mostly because everyone I work with is over 40 (I'm 23). I do however have some friends here that were in my sorority, so I mostly just hang out with them, and with my boyfriend's friends. But I stay home more often than not, because I like being alone with my boyfriend most of the time.

[CamCamPup33]

Usually no. In school, i had my group of friends, who i hung out with all the time. In class i was *Usually* quiet, depending on who was in the class, around alot of the popular kids i was really shy. But if their was a class full of people i knew, i was a complete goof.

As for PT, i consider my self very outgoing, although i only have about.. 2 *CLOSE* friends that i really can talk to about anything. I consider them some of my very best friends.

I'm freaked about going to highschool, and to make it worse I'm going somewhere where i know *NO ONE!* I'm scared that i won't make any friends.

[buckner]

I don't want to sound conceited or anything, but most of my friends have stayed back in a land that I do not want to visit. Most of my friends do stuff that I don't want to do (illegal stuff, I'm saying), so why should I get close to them? Sure, they're still my friends, but I guess I'm just a few levels "up" from them. Everybody who meets me and knows me always say I'm not like people my age. It's so hard to tell online (anyone can be who they want to be on here), so really it's only in person that you can tell. My dad always introduces me as "This is my daughter, Sara. She's 16 going on 39." That pretty much sums it up, in my eyes. My mom tells me that she wishes she had my knowledge (not necessarily book smart) about life 10 years ago.

With that said, it's hard to get close to anyone. I have 2 people in person that I'd say are my best friends. Both are girls, yes. One's a Christian, and one's not. That's another thing. I've always wanted a Christian friend that I could go to, and get moral advice about, and I finally found her. She's at my level of maturity, and knows just what I know. My best friend who is not a Christian is just as mature, and everything, but it's just not the same. That does not mean I don't love her just as much, it's just not the same.

I have another best friend, and he's 28. I'm 16, and he's 28, and he always forgets about my age. By the way I talk to him (online, not in person, because he lives in Philadelphia) he just can't remember "she's only 16". I've learned to lean on him in ways that I can't lean on anyone else, and I know he's not going anywhere.

So, after all this babbling, I have trouble making "close" friends. I'm a very outgoing person and not shy at all, but that doesn't make me reserved. I know who's good for me, and who's not good for me. That's not supposed to be mean, but a lot of people that I know and are friends with are just meant for me. Life will go on, and we'll never talk to eachother again. Since I'm not close to them, I'm not going to be heartbroken. I guess that's a good thing. I don't get heartbroken too much because I'm only close with 3 friends (other than my parents, and family) and no one else. *sigh*

[carole]

Although I class myself socially introverted, I do not have trouble making friends, but it is me who is very choosey about who I pick as my friends, I prefer one or two very special, close friends to having a lot, who IMO are just aquaintances.

I am a very loyal and devoted friend, and once you have me , its for life.

I guess I am also quite a loner , preferring my own company and that of my cats most of the time, but I do enjoy company too, and its when something bad happens that it is good to have caring , loyal friends around you.

[Kfamr]

I can very easily make friends, even when I don't want to. Just the other day a girl on my bus was laughing and laughing on the ride home because I was joking around with my friends, then when we got off, she started talking to me as we were walking home. Now she waits for me to get off the bus everyday.

Sometimes I'm just fine with only the friends I have already, so then it's hard for me to accept new friends.

Of course, a majority of my friends are into the drugs and on.. but there's no way no how i'm getting sucked into that little stage.

[ScantyNebula]

Good question .. looks like a lot of us here aren't that great at making friends.

I'll join you guys too .. I'm pretty shy. I find that I do much better and open up more when I'm around someone who's outgoing. But being around someone else who's shy is just awful! Silent treatment! lol I'd like to be that type of person that has all kinds of friends and is very social, but honestly its just not me. I actually prefer to be alone and with my bf and of course the cats. When meeting someone new I kinda find it stressful to have to think of something to say .. I'm not a schmoozer or small talker.

Unfortunately I lost all touch with my close friends once I finished college ... and now we just moved to a new province so I definetely don't have any friends now .. heh

As for PT, I don't have any close friends but thats my own fault cause I haven't been around the past while.