Medical question for the women here...

**trayi52** · 06-29-2004, 01:22 PM

It was something with the metriosis on the end of the word. Darn, I wish I could think of what it was called. That doctor said one of my ovaries looked like it had exploded, and the uterus was like mush! Anyway, I was so happy to get my plumbing took out!! I was so tired of the pain, and always having to wear a pad. I could wear, tampons, it made me hurt worse. Can you wear tampons, ramanth? Or do they make you hurt worse too?

It is sad the things we women have to go through, as soon as I did have the hystrectomy, it threw me right into menopause. I was taking hormone pills, but now I have changed to the shots again.

Back then, I always have a really hard time remembering what year I had my hysterectomy, I know it was right before my granddaughter was born, and she was born in 96, and it was a day after my birthday(great birthday present!) So it was December 29, 1995! Wow, I didn't realize it had been that long ago!

I had the easy kind of surgery, it was amazing! I didn't even realize I had the surgery. They took everything out vaginally, and that was so easy. No pain from the surgery except one little pain from the gas they pumped me full of! Now that is the way to have surgery. No pain! I felt so much better too.

Richard, I know you are just trying to find out more about this kind of thing, to me it just shows that you are very sympathtic to us women.

Willie

**lynnestankard** · 06-29-2004, 01:27 PM

My sympathy to everyone who suffers this sort of pain - it must be dreadful. I have a friend who suffers from it and have seen at first hand how bad it can be.
My heart just goes to you - and I consider myself to have been so lucky.

Lynne

**teenster3** · 06-29-2004, 02:39 PM

Richard.....
I'm not trying to bash you for not knowing or whatever. I wish my own husband wanted to know more about it & be more helpful instead of always thinking it's in my head!!!!!

I'm just surprised to see a guy responding to this thread that's all!!!!

I'm sure guys have problems just as well.....
I'm still trying to get over the fact that my dad has prostate cancer!

**ramanth** · 06-29-2004, 03:21 PM

Originally posted by trayi52
It was something with the metriosis on the end of the word. Darn, I wish I could think of what it was called. That doctor said one of my ovaries looked like it had exploded, and the uterus was like mush!

OW!!!!

Anyway, I was so happy to get my plumbing took out!! I was so tired of the pain, and always having to wear a pad. I could wear, tampons, it made me hurt worse. Can you wear tampons, ramanth? Or do they make you hurt worse too?

I used to wear tampons back in high school and college and it didn't really hurt while I was wearing them, but when I took them out, it felt like it was either sucking my insides out or felt like I was pulling something covered with sandpaper out. After I was diagnosed with Endo the doc said not to wear tampons anymore.

So I wear a pad when I "flush out" my system every four or five months.

**carole** · 06-29-2004, 05:58 PM

Firstly Richard I don't think anyone minds that you wish to read all about us women and our very personal problems, after all it is a public forum, I think it was the tongue in cheek humour that just was not appreciated this time around, there is a time and place for everything, this was not it.,having said that consider your hand smacked, and I wanted to say I have always found you to be a great guy, with a very sympathetic attitude to us women, and working in a hospital you will have seen plenty, you just have to tread carefully in some of these threads with us women ok mate.!!!! I for one want to concentrate on the subject in hand and help Teenster if we can.

Teenster I wish there was something I could say or do to help you out with your depression, I know exactly how you feel, my life is very much affected by similar problems, and restricted by it as well,I have been oh so tempted to go under the knife, especially as my mother had a hysterectomy recently and it was a breeze, but you are young and wanting a family.

No doubt you have been to a specialist? is there nothing they can do, its a vicious cycle, being in constant pain, causes depression, and so on, its all part of the illness.

I cannot stress this enough Teenster you must get your hubby educated, you need his support and understanding and empathy and TLC at this , please persuade him to go to a support group or something with you,he is not helping your situation at all with his lack of understanding and care.

I Find support groups are wonderful for a short time, after a while they to me become a little depressing, but it is good to be amongst people who acknowledge your suffering and can offer advice , help and understanding.

Some of us women have been handed a very bad deal, but we just have to get on with it,and at times it is very difficult, Teenster I can only offer you my sincere empathy, HUGS , and advice, and wish for your pain to ease soon , and that you can find something that actually helps, good luck my dear.

**teenster3** · 06-29-2004, 06:33 PM

Carole...
Thank you for your kind words. Yes, I just found a good "specialist" female doctor that I like last year. She is the one that has been trying to help me the most out of all the doctors that I have seen in the past.
I hope no one here thinks that I'm trying to feel sorry for myself. I do know that other people suffer from far worse things than what I have. I just wanted to know if there are women on this site that have problems as well.
My friend recently told me about the morning-after pill & how it is supposed to help with the "pain". I'm not sure about that drug though.
I JUST WANT THE PAIN EVERY MONTH TO STOP!!!!!
I know there are just so many words a person can say & offer advice for. I'm just venting & confused....I wish there was that special wand to wave around & take everyone's pain away!
The pain is getting worse & I will have to call my doctor again. I'm just scared & wondering what I should do this time!
When I was diagnosed back in 97' or 98' the doctor told me I was a STAGE I.....but that it doesn't necessarily mean that the symptoms are any less than a higher stage.
After my laproscopic surgery, I'd say I was ok for a few years then it started gradually coming back again.
You know you just have those days when you are soooo depressed. You just either had a bad day at work or something went wrong at home, whatever the case may be....you feel alone sometimes.
I just feel down right now, I'll feel better soon I'm sure! And to those of you who wrote me.......THANK YOU for sharing your stories.....you are angels!!!!!!!!!!!

**carole** · 06-29-2004, 06:59 PM

NEVER and I mean NEVER feel you are just feeling sorry for yourself, it does not matter that other's may have it worse, there is always someone worse off than yourself, your pain is real, and you are hurting right now both physical and emotional, and that is what your friends on PT are for to listen, offer advice, comfort, give you a laugh sometimes, even a chewing out, we all have diversity in our lives one way or another be it, physical, mental, or whatever.

You are having a real tough time right now, and a lot of us can empathise having shared your distress, be it as bad or not, we all offer you only what we can from the heart.

TAKE CARE of yourself, would having a spa help at all? just a thought, anyone close by with one or a facility nearby., just relaxing in the warm water or even the jets might help ease some of your pain.