I'm upset

**amoore** · 11-17-2003, 08:53 AM

I hope you good luck in changing your husbands mind . It would be hard to explain to your dog such a change . Maybe if you have a heart to heart talk with your husband he will , change his mind . My husband was raised with the same kind of dogless home , but has come to enjoy our dogs as much as i do .

I hope you and your husband can work it out ,so you all can be happy .

**catnapper** · 11-17-2003, 08:58 AM

My dad was always like that. mom and I thought "whats the difference? She up on the furniture when we're not around anyway!" My dad didn't understand that if you let a dog up on the bed, they see that as an ok to get up on everything. So after she was used to sitting on anything, he ran around shoooing her off everything,. Stupid and a fight he won't win.

My dad came up to visit me after I got married (my Nicki moved with me, after a short custody battle with my mom. LOL) Dad sat down on the couch and Nicki followed suit to sit next to him. He started shooing her off and I said, "This is my house and she's allowed up." I knew my husband was THE ONE when I first met his dog and she jumped up next to me on the chair.

What I want to know is: Who has he been talking to to bring him to this grand decision? Somebody probably told him what a heinous thing it is to have pets on the furniture!

Sometime men get these things in their heads and refuse to give in - my husband does too. Well, if I'm honest, I do the same thing so its not just men!

**K9soul** · 11-17-2003, 11:32 AM

He has to report every hair and paw print that he cleaned up and how disgusting our house is.

OMG does that sound familiar! LOL. Basically he's totally fine with the dogs and the things that come with having dogs until he goes to cleaning upstairs (where they spend most of their time). Apparently that morning he decided to vacuum the living room and that chair while I was still in bed. Otherwise, usually when he starts cleaning upstairs I run up and grab whatever it is and say "I'll do that!"

So anyway, got up and was having my coffee and I noticed the living room all dusted/cleaned and thought "uh oh." Then he says "I don't want Tasha on that chair anymore, you wouldn't believe all the dog hair on there, and the chair smelled. It was horrible" blah blah.

But like I said, aside from those times, we get along so perfectly. We both love nature and bird watching and gardening. We both love the dogs too, it's just he's more reserved in what he wants to allow them to do in the house.

For now, I just brought her bed out for her to lay on and put a basket in the chair so she just couldn't jump on it. I don't want to have to scold her for getting up there, I'd rather she just got accustomed to laying somewhere else. As you can see on the pictures I took last night, she seemed content enough to doze on her bed.

**amoore** · 11-17-2003, 12:11 PM

Im glad you found a way to not have to scold your baby . sounds like you are working it out ,so your family will all be happy

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**Shelteez2** · 11-17-2003, 03:02 PM

Originally posted by catnapper
My dad didn't understand that if you let a dog up on the bed, they see that as an ok to get up on everything.

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I have to disagree. Dogs can easily learn which items of furniture are okay for them to get up on and which pieces aren't.
My aunt had a dog that wasn't allowed up on the furniture, but was allowed on the foot of the bed in the mornings on weekends. She learned that routine very well.

**Shelteez2** · 11-17-2003, 03:05 PM

Originally posted by K9soul
For now, I just brought her bed out for her to lay on and put a basket in the chair so she just couldn't jump on it. I don't want to have to scold her for getting up there, I'd rather she just got accustomed to laying somewhere else. As you can see on the pictures I took last night, she seemed content enough to doze on her bed.

Another option, which I think someone mentioned, is to get an old doggy blanket and put it on the chair. I used to babysit 2 dogs that weren't allowed on the furniture unless their blanket was on it. So when you wanted special cuddle times you just took the blanket and spread it out over the couch and they would hop up. Dogs can learn at any age, you just have to be consistent, no scolding involved *S*

**Tonya** · 11-17-2003, 07:40 PM

Otherwise, usually when he starts cleaning upstairs I run up and grab whatever it is and say "I'll do that!"

OMG! That's me! I get stressed when I see him start cleaning.

**K9karen** · 11-17-2003, 08:11 PM

I swear I'll never complain again about doing all the cleaning myself!

My mom's not been well, my brother is useless so if they see dog hair or pawmarks, if they want it cleaned immediately, they are welcome to grab the Electrolux and do a sweep or 2. If not, 2 tears in a bucket, it'll have to wait til I have the time or feel like it..altho I do force myself to vacuum once a week "just in case". I'm not a neat freak but the house is liveable and decent and our 4 walls will be around a lot longer than we willl! Besides, no outfit is complete without dog hair!!!!!

**sabies** · 11-17-2003, 08:37 PM

I have to disagree. Dogs can easily learn which items of furniture are okay for them to get up on and which pieces aren't.

I totally agree that dogs can learn which furniture is ok. Could a possible compromise be Tasha gets to keep her chair and that's the only furniture she sleeps on? Putting a blanket on the chair should make it an even easier compromise for your husband to agree with. Your husband doesn't have to understand how you feel about the dog but he does have to respect how you feel.

**trayi52** · 11-19-2003, 12:26 AM

K9soul, I totally understand where you are coming from on this one, though my husband don't like dogs at all, and I mean not even a little bit, and micki76, it only took eight years? Well I have been married for 33 years, and my hubby is still the same with my dogs, and even worse about my cats. He hates cats with a passion. And yes he is the announcer in the family if the house doesn't smell right. He came from a family that didn't have pets of any kind. I had a Doberman that thought she was supposed to sleep where she wanted to, I never could break her, I mean she knew she wasn't supposed to be on the furniture, but when we were not around, she would sneak and get on the furniture, and then hit the floor when she heard us coming. lol.
She died a few years back, and I have a Rottweiler now, and from the time she was a puppy, I didn't allow her on the furniture at all, and she does pretty good. She don't get on the furniture, of course she thinks she is a "lap puppy" and tries to sit in my lap.
But I am glad you are solving your problem. I have been working on my "problem" for 33 years, gee I might solve my problem in another 33 years. Who knows, it could happen!