Where I'm at now...something positive

[Catty1]

Dearest Gayle...didn't things go wrong long before that? The post you sent several years ago from California? {{{{hugs}}}}

I think he meant the card...but he is very sick and very dangerous. Remember that, hon. Put on your running shoes and KEEP RUNNING!

[Queen of Poop]

Dearest Gayle...didn't things go wrong long before that? The post you sent several years ago from California? {{{{hugs}}}}

I think he meant the card...but he is very sick and very dangerous. Remember that, hon. Put on your running shoes and KEEP RUNNING!

Things went wrong way before that. I was so very stupid for so very long. Should have tossed him the first time he hit me, before I married him. I'm much smarter now, took 8 years to get here but I am NOT turning back. Talked with the divorce lawyer this morning, we will be serving him with papers very soon.

[emily_the_spoiled]

Okay, I think everyone needs to read this

THE BOTTLE OF WINE


For all of us who are married, were married, wish you were married, or wish you weren't married, this is something to smile about the next time you see a bottle of wine:


Sally was driving home from one of her business trips in Northern Arizona when she saw an elderly Navajo woman walking on the side of the road.


As the trip was a long and quiet one, she stopped the car and asked the Navajo woman if she would like a ride.


With a silent nod of thanks, the woman got into the car.


Resuming the journey, Sally tried in vain to make a bit of small talk with the Navajo woman. The old woman just sat silently, looking intently at everything she saw, studying every little detail, until she noticed a brown bag on the seat next to Sally.


'What in bag?' asked the old woman .


Sally looked down at the brown bag and said, 'It's a bottle of wine. I got it for my husband.'


The Navajo woman was silent for another moment or two. Then speaking with the quiet wisdom of an elder, she said:



'Good trade.....

[Queen of Poop]

Thanks for making me laugh. That doesn't happen much these days.

[Catty1]

Here's a housewarming gift, Gayle...I saw these in Kensington yesterday and almost fell over!

http://www.gettheex.com/

[rosethecopycat]

Thanks again for all the encouragement everyone. Trying to take it day by day. Really down in the dumps this morning though. Just very, very sad. Found the anniversary card he had given me at the end of July for our 8th wedding anniversary. Can't figure how things went so wrong since then. Or was the card just a ruse. I dont' know, it's bothering me and I know I should let it go.

Rose, how are you doing today? Did you get your new glasses?

Gayle, the similarities in our situations are uncanny. I am so sorry that you were ever struck, even once. Nobody deserves that. Ever.
That is the only thing my husband has proven consistent and true. He was never violent.

I too, have been in deep, deep despair.

I too, found a anniversary card.

May I read it?

Sometimes when I look at you I can't believe you're mine.
I still feel the same excitement that I did when we first met.
And I know that no matter what happens, that spark will always be there.
It's so wonderful to know that sharing love with the same person doesn't have to get old or boring, that it can keep getting better and stronger all the time.
And it's wonderful to know that I share that kind of love with you...
and always will.
(in his own hand follows)
Happy 10'th Anniversary
Rose!
I love you forever.


That was 18 months ago.
Now, those are all the reasons he's siting that he wants to leave. Oh, and yeah, I forgot, now he wants kids. (I'm 48)
What kind of man, if he never felt like that card says, goes into a store, picks that card out and thinks: yeah, that's the card I'll give her!

At the end of July, he joined the Army National Guard Reserve (at the age of 39) to secure health insurance (for me)
It was a lifeline as my health premium was $1000 a month, for me alone.
Soon I will have no coverage, RA as a preexisting condition and no hope of paying the premium as I am severely underemployed now.
My nagging question is: why would he join the Guard if he was so unhappy with me?

Somewhere around that time, I think that other woman entered the picture. She is married as well, getting a divorce.
She is a predator.
I too am asking myself how things could go so wrong since then.

Gayle, I hope you can at the very least can feel some relief, and some safety now. I know you're going to feel all the other things too, like,
grief, sorrow, anger, despair and the feeling like you are on the verge of tears for sometime to come.

I pray you have some support system in family and friends.
I know how important connecting with people is, as I don't have any family, and am completely alone. No parents, no children, no brothers or sisters, no aunts or uncles.

PT folks, just imagine if everyone you have contact with was suddenly gone.
Please reach out to your loved ones, and work on your relationships.

As mine didn't deserve any work, I guess.

Rose

[Queen of Poop]

Gayle, the similarities in our situations are uncanny. I am so sorry that you were ever struck, even once. Nobody deserves that. Ever.
That is the only thing my husband has proven consistent and true. He was never violent.

I too, have been in deep, deep despair.

I too, found a anniversary card.

May I read it?

Sometimes when I look at you I can't believe you're mine.
I still feel the same excitement that I did when we first met.
And I know that no matter what happens, that spark will always be there.
It's so wonderful to know that sharing love with the same person doesn't have to get old or boring, that it can keep getting better and stronger all the time.
And it's wonderful to know that I share that kind of love with you...
and always will.
(in his own hand follows)
Happy 10'th Anniversary
Rose!
I love you forever.


That was 18 months ago.
Now, those are all the reasons he's siting that he wants to leave. Oh, and yeah, I forgot, now he wants kids. (I'm 48)
What kind of man, if he never felt like that card says, goes into a store, picks that card out and thinks: yeah, that's the card I'll give her!

At the end of July, he joined the Army National Guard Reserve (at the age of 39) to secure health insurance (for me)
It was a lifeline as my health premium was $1000 a month, for me alone.
Soon I will have no coverage, RA as a preexisting condition and no hope of paying the premium as I am severely underemployed now.
My nagging question is: why would he join the Guard if he was so unhappy with me?

Somewhere around that time, I think that other woman entered the picture. She is married as well, getting a divorce.
She is a predator.
I too am asking myself how things could go so wrong since then.

Gayle, I hope you can at the very least can feel some relief, and some safety now. I know you're going to feel all the other things too, like,
grief, sorrow, anger, despair and the feeling like you are on the verge of tears for sometime to come.

I pray you have some support system in family and friends.
I know how important connecting with people is, as I don't have any family, and am completely alone. No parents, no children, no brothers or sisters, no aunts or uncles.

PT folks, just imagine if everyone you have contact with was suddenly gone.
Please reach out to your loved ones, and work on your relationships.

As mine didn't deserve any work, I guess.

Rose

Oh Rose I wish I could reach out across the miles and give you a great big hug. I've been contacting those women with whom I was friends before that wasn't allowed any more. They've been great, telling me it's about time I took out the trash. I also have my parents total support and they're providing me the funds to divorce him. I don't know why either of our men did what they did, but they don't deserve us (can you tell I'm having a good day today???). We are too good for them. You're a good, decent person, you will find a way thru this difficult time and come out smelling like (guess what??) a Rose. Hang in there girl, I'm with you all the way. We can do this. I will PM you my direct email address. If you ever need to chat we can go that way.

[cassiesmom]

Rose and Gayle, I am thinking of you this evening and hoping you'll have had a good day.

((((HUGS)))))
elyse

[Queen of Poop]

I was good until late this afternoon. Now I'm a wimpering fool. I don't want to feel all sad and all after having a good day. It's just washed over me. Think I'll go to bed soon to escape it.

[Daisy and Delilah]

Gayle and Rose:::::it seems impossible but you can do this!!! Stick to your guns.......be strong!!! The other life that's coming is so much better. One day the sadness will be gone.

Staying in touch with each other is fantastic. What a great support system.

[carole]

Gayle i wish you all the very best, and hope that your move will indeed be a good one for you and all will go well, you have been through some tough times and I can only hope for you to have a very happy ,content and safe life from now on.

Remember it is perfectly normal to grieve for something you have lost, even if it wasn't how it should be, it is what you knew and i am sure there were plenty of good times as well, but the bad times usually outweigh the good,just take each day as it comes, and know that in time you will feel happy again and secure within yourself.
Rose reading your post brought tears to my eyes, i can feel and understand you pain also, just know we are all here for you both and thinking of you and extremely proud of you both, HUGS to both of you.

[Queen of Poop]

Thanks all for the support. Good to read thru all of this today. Had a great day yesterday but started going downhill last night and continues on the downward plunge today. Guess that's going to be the norm for a while. More emotional rollercoaster action.

[Karen]

Yes, dear, but the good thing about THIS rollercoaster is that the hills get smaller after a while, and then you DO get to get off!

We are all pulling for ya!

[Daisy and Delilah]

I have a relative(don't want to say who right now)that is going through a similar situation. This thread is so close to what's happening. It is serving as a great help to me to help with advice and continue to encourage pushing forward.

Gayle and Rose......HUGS to both of you again. You can do this!!!

[gini]

Adding some prayers and hugs to this thread for Gayle and Rose.

As Karen said, the hills will get shorter and not be so lonely or frightening.

Just wait until you both are able to fly - and that will happen. I hope we can share in your joy when it comes.