A guy does NOT define me....rant.

**caseysmom** · 03-10-2009, 10:10 AM

Your beautiful and you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. Just ignore her you know what she is saying is just plain wierd.

**AllAmericanPUP** · 03-10-2009, 10:17 AM

How very sad for her.

**kuhio98** · 03-10-2009, 11:52 AM

Originally Posted by sumbirdy

Poor girl....I think she's truly confused about how things work. Your looks come from God and your parents, not your SO. And you should be able to find true happiness within.

I feel sorry for her if she truly needs validation from other people to feel good about herself.

She sounds very young. Hopefully, she'll get more confidence and grow out of this. Otherwise, she'll be one of those people that glom onto anyone who will pay them attention (and possibly abuse them) because they'd rather be with someone -- and miserable, than be alone.

If she ever tells you you're ugly again, suggest she book an eye exam!

**Catty1** · 03-10-2009, 12:14 PM

Originally posted by kuhio98:

If she ever tells you you're ugly again, suggest she book an eye exam!

Or at least a decent brain scan.

**Daisy and Delilah** · 03-10-2009, 12:54 PM

I also think you're beautiful. You have the most beautiful skin, eyes, and, hair. A classic beauty, I think it's called.

This girl is acting like a child. Such immaturity. If I were you, I would let it go as well. She's going to be the loser in the end.

**Zippy** · 03-10-2009, 05:11 PM

Your brother's GF must be blind.You are very pretty.

**Karen** · 03-10-2009, 05:19 PM

Can you image what kind of childhood she has had, that she has learned form someone that your worth and attractiveness depends on having a boyfriend? The poor thing.

Karen - who has now been married longer than I was single - pretty wierd!

**carole** · 03-10-2009, 05:56 PM

You are as cute as a button, yes one has to feel very sad indeed for this young woman, fancy in this day and age thinking that, but still i think for her to come out and say to you what she did, is firstly very unkind, immature and down right un-called for and so.....UNTRUE.

The girl needs her eyes tested, maybe she is slightly jealous of you ,that is what i think anyhow.

Fancy validating herself like that, and everyone else, actually she is very ugly inside and from what you said not so great on the outside either.

I suppose one could say she feels better about herself now that she has a man,but that is so sad isn't it?

Often people like her just have to say something nasty to others to make them feel better.

Anyhow glad you did not take it to heart, treat it like water of a ducks back, but i would tell her how you feel, state how unkind she was and how you felt hurt, and let her know how ridiculous her statement is.

**Alysser** · 03-10-2009, 06:37 PM

That's one of the stupidest things someone has ever said, by far! She's an obvious moron, I would never listen to her. I'm glad you won't either, you're certainly not ugly, you look very pretty in that picture. I'm glad your brother defended you but if I was in his position she'd be out the door on her butt, family comes first.

I'm not single but it's just stupid to even talk like that. She isn't the sharpest tack in the draw now is she?

**kokopup** · 03-10-2009, 07:18 PM

Unfortunately there are many that measure there self worth by faulty
standards, be it a boy friend or material things.

An american actress and athlete Sasha Azevedo had this to say about self worth.

“When you're a beautiful person on the inside, there is nothing in the world that can change that about you. Jealousy is the result of one's lack of self-confidence, self-worth, and self-acceptance. The Lesson: If you can't accept yourself, then certainly no one else will.”

When I see your picture I see a beautiful girl. Over my many years
the women that I found the most beautiful had a sparkle in their eyes
that came from within. To quote a beauty of my day, Sophia Loren.

“Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.”

The life you have ahead of you for the most part will be determined
by how you feel about yourself. You seem to have your head on straight, keep it that way.

**kitten645** · 03-10-2009, 09:01 PM

You are beautiful and she's an idiot. Ignore her. You can't control what others do, you can only control how you react to them. Pointless getting mad as she is clearly ugly on the inside.
Word to the wise (your brother), this chick spells trouble.
Claudia
Single and covered in cat fur!

**sumbirdy** · 03-12-2009, 10:20 PM

I'm over being angry or really upset. I just feel sad for her. I'm happy with who I am, I believe that I am a good person, and to me that's all that really counts.

It's kind of sad because it seems like she's trying to start a competition with me. I don't want that. I'm not really competitive. I mentioned once I was trying to lose weight (my heart is bad and my energy is low, the weight needs to come off) and ever since I mentioned it she keeps telling me about how much weight SHE is losing. Although to me it doesn't look like she has lost any, but what do I know? I don't really care, I'm not out to see who can lose it the fastest. And whenever a guy walks by us and even looks in our general direction she gushes on and on about how he was looking at her, how much he wants her, how this is going to make my brother SO jealous....ect.... I generally tune her out.

She's older than me (she's 20, I'm 19) but sometimes I feel years older.

I would post a pic of her but I don't know if that would be considered rude.

**Suki Wingy** · 03-12-2009, 10:40 PM

I'm with you! I've been single my whole life because I rather be with someone who loves me for me and not just anyone I can grab and cling to.

**Daisy and Delilah** · 03-12-2009, 10:53 PM

I really feel sorry for that poor girl. She's not only immature but insecure. She's really reaching. You can't take much of what she says seriously.

Keep doing what you're doing.

**K9karen** · 03-12-2009, 10:57 PM

My Gawd, you're so adorable and sweet with a good head on your shoulders.

I never ever had a steady boyfriend (until I was 51 y.o.) because NOBODY defines me but me. And even now, I'm independent. A relationship is a partnership. Anybody (IMO) who needs someone with them constantly is insecure and afraid of being alone.

Hey, say what I say to avoid an argument .."Whatever" with a really GOOD *