My Mom Passed Away

[Karen]

Dear one,

Please accept a lot of hugs from me. When my mom was dying (ALS) I would often sit in the car after visiting her and sing the old spiritual "Sometimes I Feel Like a Motherless Child" and it is so mournful and sad it somehow made me feel a little better.

There is no cure for this
There is no fix
The cost of loving and being loved
Is, at this point, pain
But the pain will not win
It will not prevail
In moments when you least expect it
A memory of some silly moment
Or happy time
Will sneak into your mind
A glance in the mirror will reveal
A trace of her in your own face
But more than anything, death does not win
Pain does not win
Because Love - Love lives on
And will carry you through.


We love you!

[RICHARD]

God bless you and your family.
I just went thru the same thing two months ago and while I can't tell you I know how you feel, Everyone is different, Please realize that there are people that travel that same path with you.

You do not walk alone.

Prayers and warm thoughts sent out to you!

[lvpets2002]

So sadded to read about your Mother.. My Deepest Symphathy.. Sending Prayers & God Bless You..

[Freedom]

My heart goes out to you at this time. I felt much of what you are feeling, 16 years ago when my mom died suddenly and unexpectedly (it was all over in less than 7 minutes).

I can relate to what everyone has written, those who have lost their mum. The ties between a mother and daughter are like no other. Similar to Marigold, I lost my mum after a short 36 years. It wasn't long enough! All these years later, I still read something or see something on TV and reach for the phone to share it with her. However, it is easier now than it was those first 6 months.

Karen's poem is lovely. All my life, I was told I looked like my Dad (my brother takes after mum more). As the years pass, I DO glance in a mirror now and then, and think I see mum.

Hugs to you.

[gini]

What I am about to say is intended to comfort you not offend you in any way.

I lost my own Mother when I was ten months old. So I really do not have any memories of her. When I came upon an old slide of her holding me, I burst into tears. I had the slide made into a print that I now have in a frame.

So really, I am terribly jealous of you - you shared so much with each other. You were able to take care of her and she of you. Yes, of course, it is very very difficult for you right now. But you have been blessed with a wonderful Mother and many many memories that you can draw upon to comfort you.

Those wonderful memories will carry you through - help you with each new day. You will always be able to remember her arms around you and how safe that felt. I am glad for you that you have had all of this in your life. I am also glad to read that she didn't suffer a great deal of pain.

She IS still with you - every second of each day - and she loves you no less - she loves you even more.

I hope each day is easier for you - but crying is such a good thing - let it all out. Your loss is huge and so very personal.

You have my comfort and prayers.

[Laura's Babies]

I have put off responding because I knew it would be difficult for me.. November was my Mom's birthday and for some reason, that one hit me pretty hard this time. My Mom died in 1999, also of cancer. We also choose Hospice, a decision we never have regretted. It was a joy keping her at home and taking care of her. Some of our our best shared moments were after we found out she was dying. We shared SO much in those days. We joked and laughed like a couple of idiots, had some of the most serious talks we ever had, even about her funeral arrangements that I had made in advance but most of all, we just sat on the front porch every evening and watched the sun go down. They were the worst of times but the best of times..

I talked to Mama's picture a lot and still talk to her. I have felt her with me. I have her kitty baby Boo and that is a connection to her that I cherish. Boo is 13 years old now and still going strong, I am happy and proud that she has accepted me as her human and I know Mama is pleased but will someday to claim her fur baby and take her home with her. That will be like loosing Mama all over again so I dread that day..

Nothing in life prepares you for the loss of your Mother, no matter how prepared you think you are, you are not... My sympathies to you and your family, just take it one day at a time.... that is all you can do.

[shepgirl]

So very sorry about your loss. I lost my mom 2 yrs ago and I know exactly how you feel. I treasure every single memory I have of her and it gets easier but there are still days when nothing seems to help. But time does heal and our memories keep us going. I was lucky enough to have my mom with me for her last years and that alone is a great comfort.

[Alysser]

I'm so sorry, may she rest in peace. ((Hugs)) to you.

[DJFyrewolf36]

*HUGS* I wish I knew what to say, but all I can offer is my support. Prayers to you and your family.

[cassiesmom]

thoughts and prayers for kallisto4529 and family,
Elyse

[Twisterdog]

I'm so very sorry.

My daddy passed away a year ago, on February 2, 2008. I honestly didn't know how to proceed with life without him. I still miss him each and every day.

It was, and still is, so hard for me to grasp that this is final, forever. My daddy is gone, and never, ever again will I see his smile, hear his voice or smell his aftershave. "Never" is so incredibly heartbreaking.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[K9karen]

Dearest Marti, I know exactly how you feel. Your post brought tears to my eyes. Not only did my dear, beloved, best friend, mom, pass 3 years ago, this past June (time flies), but her youngest sister, my favorite aunt, passed away Feb 9.

I feel your pain, as, I too, home cared my mother when she wasn't in the hospital or in rehab. Our roles were totally reversed. I never thought I'd change my mom's diaper. She was mentally alert, which, to me, made it easier, as we could still talk and laugh.
Unlike a lot of my friends, I was very close to my mom. I was invited to live with my parents to save money, and I never regretted it, as I had total freedom.

It gets better little by little. One day at a time. Sometimes, you'll lose it, other days, your fog will lift and you'll feel sane. I survive by remembering all the gazillion great memories. I still wear some of her clothes, remembering when and where she wore it. I know my mom is proud of me..she taught me well. And I'm sure your mom feels the same about you. (I miss my dad too, he was super, but mom and I had girlie times). Sometimes I think I feel her kiss my cheek and her arms wrapped lovingly around me.

May you find peace knowing your beautiful mother is healthy and happy, with her loved ones, human and furry.

[phesina]

My very deepest sympathy to you and your family on the loss of your beloved mother.

May she rest in peace.

[KYS]

I am so sorry,
No words can describe the loss of a mother, I think about my mom daily.
Sending lots and lots of ((((hugs))))

[ramanth]

I'm very sorry for your loss.