They came and took him! What do I do now? *UPDATE PAGE 5!*

[sumbirdy]

Haven't posted on here for a while. We realized that Nathan is allergic to some kinds of detergent and he got a bad rash so we switched to that all brand in the white bottle and it got better.

He can walk several steps by himself and it won't be long until he gets all around the house.

[sumbirdy]

Well, here's another update. Nathan has to have tubes put in his ears Oct. 5 at a city that is 240 miles from us and we have to be there at 6 a.m.
His "mother" cancelled his Medicaid and his doctors appointment (but we sorted those things out) It's been about a month and a half and she's called, I think, twice. Once to try to say Charles called begging her to call him back and the second to say she canceled the Medicaid. On the second one dad told her that was ok because he already got it back and she just hung up on him.
I'm dreading this divorce thing because we don't have the money to fight for custody and Legal Aid will only do the custody thing if both parents are in agreement.

Anyway, Nathan is acting more like himself although he is starting to throw a lot of tantrums especially if he doesn't get something he wants. He's walking more every day but he prefers crawling. He still has the occasional nightmare but not nearly as often.
Everybody is at odds with Charles at the moment because he sleeps most of the day and only seems to want to take care of Nathan when its convenient for him (I hate to say it about my brother but he reminds me of Stephanie sometimes) He's trying to twist it all around and says that we "shove Nathan off on him when we don't want to take care of him" That's not true, we always want to take care of Nathan we just basically have to force him to be a dad. All he seems to want to do is make the rules. And then he gets mad when we don't follow them exactly. So I'm pretty ticked at him.

Here's some pics of Nathan

[joycenalex]

i'm glad you posted, i've been thinking of you all. now, off to look at the new pictures

[Catty1]

Oh, dear...maybe your parents will have to sue for custody after all.

Your brother could also have a really bad depression...has he seen a doctor? He's just gotten out of a really abusive situation, and is facing divorce proceedings, and many people with bad depression spend a lot of time in bed, just hiding from the world. Depression like that just takes a person over.

I hope he will see a doctor and see about some counselling.

Hugs and prayers to everyone.

[jennielynn1970]

Hope the tubes in the ears goes well for Nathan. I had them in a few times when I was younger... still have ear issues, but at least I can hear now! He'll be fine! All you have to do is be careful about getting water in his ears. Mine came out on their own, so he shouldn't have to go through getting them out or anything. They're super tiny too.

Big hugs to you guys.. sounds like there's a lot going on, and your brother needs to realize being a dad is not something you decide to do only when it's convenient.

[crow_noir]

I've been wondering how things were going... and i wanted to ask. I just figured you'd post when you were ready.

So sorry that things are still rough.*hugs* Don't give up.

[sumbirdy]

Here's some more pics. I took them yesterday.

[sumbirdy]

Here's 3 more and one of him and Charles.

[chocolatepuppy]

Nathan is so cute! I hope things go well with his ears.

[Catty1]

Gosh, your brother looks so young! I hope he has checked in with a doctor, and is feeling ok. Just that he has been through so much (as you all have).

Great pics! Thanks for the update.

[sumbirdy]

Well, he had his surgery today, screamed his head off for 30 minutes afterwards and clung to me screaming louder if anyone tried to take him. He finally fell asleep and woke up about an hour from home in the best mood I've ever seen him in. When we got home me and him both took a nap and he just went to bed. Poor little guy. It's been a rough day.

[Catty1]

Summer - just a suggestion - how about starting a new thread - maybe call it Nathan Part 2 or something?

There is a new life for him and his dad and your family, so this might be a good vibe thing to do.

Just a thought.