Did you take your husband's name?

[dukedogsmom]

I even kept it after the divorce. My maiden name is often confused with another similar sounding name and I was so tired of being mistaken when making reservations, etc. Now, no one misunderstands me. I use my maiden name as my middle name.

[BitsyNaceyDog]

I took Justin's name when we got married, I could never imagine doing otherwise.

[Sophist]

I kept my own name and got a lot of criticism for it since it was the mid-1970's and not popular in England then. I didn't have a wedding ring either. I said I didn't want to be banded and branded like a piece of property. I was married in my heart and soul and that was enough for me. T. didn't mind at all.

I also rejected the whole ring/band idea.

I also need an "other". When we get married in February, for several reasons my new husband will be taking my last name.

[Vela]

You don't need an "other", she made "he took your last name" as a choice.

[Glacier]

I did, but only because I had a very difficult, strange maiden name. He has a nice, normal, easy to pronounce last name! I was tired of having to spell and explain my name all the time! Stuart didn't care one way or the other what I did.

[Sophist]

You don't need an "other", she made "he took your last name" as a choice.

Missed it somehow. Oh, well.

[fionapap]

At the time we married, back in 84, the law in Greece said that women were obligated to keep their maiden names. I was disappointed but could not do otherwise.

However I do not use my maiden name at all unless it has something to do with legal matters.

Greeks do not have middle names. Very confusing if you consider that half the population is called Maria or George.

Therefore, my 2 middle names cause a lot of commotion and complaints especially from civil workers who are too lazy to write all my names down and have even tried to dismiss them. Imagine have 2 hyphenated last names!!

Now there's thought. Most civil workers are so rude and insolent here that it just might be fun to make their lives a little more difficult as they do ours.

My appologies to any civil workers who might be reading this, but if you have ever lived in Greece, you will understand my comments on this issue.

[mina'smomma]

Considering my maiden name is Smith. I'll let you guess which I did.

[Logan]

I never had a middle name and my initials, prior to my first marriage were so boring! LOL!!! Just "LH". I took my first husband's last name and used my maiden name for my middle initial. I could finally have a monogram, LHG! After our divorce, I kept his name for my daughter's sake. I would have gone back to the "LH" in a heartbeat, otherwise.

When I remarried in 2002, I took my husband's name and dropped my first "married" name. Now I am "LHB", keeping my maiden name for my middle name. I never considered doing anything but that and my daughter was old enough to understand why I did it. Her friends still call me "Mrs. G" and I'm fine with that!

Logan

[Prairie Purrs]

Officially I changed to my ex-husband's name while I was married, but I continued to use my maiden name at work (I was a radio newscaster).

When we got divorced, I gave back his name (and took the savings account).

[carole]

Yes i did take my husbands name, because its traditional i suppose, it is the same name as a girls first name, so i often get called my last name instead of my first, which kinda annoys me,but that is how it is lol.

[Edwina's Secretary]

Kept the name I was given at birth. Didn't see any reason the person I had been for over 40 years should stop existing....

It can be a hassle but it was important to me....(always fun when my husband is called Mr. Sara!)

[crow_noir]

I always figured i'd keep mine. No man is worth changing your idientity for. (I could only ever understand hyphinating last names, but not one person entirely throwing theirs away. I see it as coming from a time when women were nothing more than property.)

As much as my last name can be a drag sometimes, it has its benefits.

Both of our last names aren't our real last names. Our heritages had their difficut times and the names were forced upon our ancestors. I told him that if he ever chose to take his real grandfather's last name i'd chage to it too. It's a proud and noble name that I'd be proud to carry. It would be nice to have a "Real" last name for once.

[crow_noir]

Thanks for explaining that. I always asked the kids at my school about that, but they had no idea. They just went with it.

Now i know!

I could be placed as other also cause we have a different system here....

for example my last name is Garcia, but i also have my mothers last name so im Isabel Garcia Valdes............but i refer to myself as only Isabel Garcia for shortness.......when you get married all your documents still have your name as its YOUR name, but you can add a like "de" which is like "of" (in english).........for example my mom is Isabel Valdes but she married to a Garcia and she changed it to Isabel Valdes DE Garcia, but still her things are in her own both maiden last names............so she can only call herself Garcia but still not be..........:P

so even if I could refer my self with a DE and then my husbands last name.......I just though it would not be me........i mean I am me and a last name won´t change me, but i´d feel awkward...........not that i don´t like his last name but still I want to still be me............LOL

Just another thing in the example of a person, let´s say kid, that takes his mother last name then it´s like if he has no father or is his mother brother........a bit different than most would think

hope i made sense

[jackmilliesmom]

I took my husbands name and was so keen to do so when I signed the register I signed it as Josephine S instead of Josephine L as was required that really sent the registrar into a tissy altogether.... lol... what a joke that has become in my year and half marriage but his sister-in-law who got married this year did the same thing its kind of funny.


We are both kind of traditional in that way. I am proud to be married and even in taking his name I have still retained my independence and personality that does not change just because you get married and change your name