My brother-nlaw died yesterday...

[Karen]

One great big hug to you. Dunno the particulars, don't have to. You saty true to your own gut, Carole, and we know you'll be the calm point amidst the storm. Anger is such a corrosive substance, I will hold you and your family in my prayers.

[carole]

I am glad I posted this because it has brought me great comfort just reading all your kind words, it is such a dilemma to be in , one I donot particularly enjoy.

I guess my other worry, is that my husband still has so much bitterness inside, well warranted granted, but it is not good for his well-being, a part of me thinks he has just been waiting for one of them to come on our property to have a go at them, so maybe in a funny way it will have helped him, to let go of some of that inner anger.

The thing is when my hubby's nephew died he did not grieve at all, and that still concerns me to this day, he and Craig were like buddies not uncle and nephew, and because of the family rift he would not go to his funeral, with Brian there is not the same closeness, and it will not effect him the same,it is the inner turmoil that continually worries me.

Thank you all , it has been so good to beable to express my feelings here, rather than keep it all inside , PT is a great outlet for releasing tension, emotions, and I am ever thankful to have found such precious people here.