After Wedding Attire - looking for opinions

[ramanth]

*edit* Okay...show of hands...how many people thought I was talking about Wedding night attire?


I'm ordering a shirt for myself from wear-my-name.com and I'm stumped at how I should word it.

Should it say 'Mrs. Kimberly Miller' since that's going to be my name or should I go with "etiquette" and have it say 'Mrs. Andrew Miller'?

Here's a sample of the shirt with my name:

[lv4dogs]

I like Kimberly better, but my beliefs are not like the average "etiquette".

[Cookiebaker]

I like Kimberly better, but my beliefs are not like the average "etiquette".

ditto! I personally think "Mrs. Andrew Miller" sounds 1950ish. JMHO.

[Husky_mom]

I like Kimberly better, but my beliefs are not like the average "etiquette".

same here........

in mexico you dont change your last name you just add your hubbies to yours
as

Isabel Garcia de Nava (being Nava my hubbies) ("de" is like "from") but i just dont use it that way i only use my name as it is..........LOL........i´m still myself......and i dont follow etiquette either........

but i do like better the Kimberly one too!!!

[lizbud]

same here........

in mexico you dont change your last name you just add your hubbies to yours
as

Isabel Garcia de Nava (being Nava my hubbies) ("de" is like "from") but i just dont use it that way i only use my name as it is..........LOL........i´m still myself......and i dont follow etiquette either........

I really believe this is the most "civilized" way of doing it.
Anyway, I'd use your first name & his last name.

[Edwina's Secretary]

I agree with you Liz. I think the Spanish anming tradition is the best. I have a friend in Mexico who always said the only time she used "de" and her husband's last name was when she registered at the hospital to give birth!

[Cataholic]

I **think**, since you are known as Mrs. Andrew Miller, and, not Mrs. Kimberly Miller, if you were to write it the other way suggests you didn't know that???? I would think, "oh, oh, she doesn't know the difference..."

But, as everyone likes to say, "I look WAY too far into things...", and maybe others wouldn't even notice???

I tend to notice things like that.

[ramanth]

I hear ya Johanna and that's the reason for this poll.

My first thought was to put my name hence the sample, but all the examples on the site had the guys name and it made me think twice.

I mean even announcing the couple after the ceremony and at the reception it's usually: "Mr. and Mrs. Andrew Miller" and that's how the invites were done too.

Ackkk... decisions...

[Cataholic]

Stay Kimmy Smith, then you have no worries!

I **think** it is appropriate to be Mrs. Kimberly Smith....isn't it??

[Laura's Babies]

MY vote is for the one with YOUR name to keep you own idenity! Most of my life I was "So&So's Mom", "So&SO's wife" and it was like I had no name of my own. One time I was introduced to someone and they were told "This is Joe and Joe's WIFE"! I was so outdone, this was the one to many times that this had happened so I smiled and said "and Joe's wife has a name, it is LAURA, so when you call me, please don't call me "Joe's wife!, call me by my OWN name"!"

[Glacier]

I would use Kimberly. I took my husband's last name, but I hate being referred to as Mrs. Stuart Young. It's a huge pet peeve of mine! I took only his last name, I still have a first name and my own identity!

[Karen]

I'd go with Kim - after all, that is your name, and the one you'll be using! Sure, it's not etiquette, but you're still gonna be your own person, and not Mrs. Andy.

Could you do

Mrs. Andrew Miller
a.k.a. (or still known as) Kimberly
established line ...

[ramanth]

Johanna, my name isn't appropiate because I'm a naughty girl. *laughs*

Could you do

Mrs. Andrew Miller
a.k.a. (or still known as) Kimberly
established line ...

HA!! I don't think the printers would like that.

I could always run with

The Woman Formally known as Kimberly Smith but since Smith is so common (as if Miller is any better ) so what the hell, I'll drop Smith and take Miller.
est. 7/1/06

[Cinder & Smoke]

... since you are known as Mrs. Andrew Miller,
and, not Mrs. Kimberly Miller ...

... think, "oh, oh, she doesn't know the difference ..."

Mom was happie with "Mr. & Mrs. Jack M" for BOTH of them, doing something together.

But I'm SURE she used "Mrs. Alice M" when she was being addressed by herself!

YOUR shirt - YOUR name!

I'd wonder > "Andrew?? Strange name for a cute GIRL!"

[carole]

I would go for Mrs Kimberly Miller, I myself have never taken my hubbys first name, although it is common practice, i much prefer to be known by my own name, but it is your call.