IF enough of us complain......

[gini]

This may not make me popular here on Pet Talk, but I finally feel as though I need to say something.

Why is it necessary for some of you to turn threads into sniping, bickering posts? They start out being fun and then simply fall apart.

This isn't your personal chat room. If you don't like someone, put them on your ignore list. There is the personal message feature - vent there - in private. Who wants to read all of this garbage that you post.

The thread about the new Addition to the family is a case in point.

I don't know about you - but I am tired of wading through a bunch of trashy posts to see if there is something fun to read. I just give up and exit the thread.

There are so many of you out there that need attention and it breaks my heart that you do.

But I have learned that many of you "cry wolf" - so I don't take your attention getting posts too seriously anymore.

God forbid that someone REALLY needs some help and we could give it - but don't because a few have spoiled it for everyone else.

SO - IF ENOUGH OF US COMPLAIN..............

[catland]

I have sent a PM to city hall, agreeing with your position.

[mugsy]

I looked at the thread....I chose to ignore the stupidity and just posted about how much I liked the cone. Perhaps if there were more ignoring and less reaction the stupidity would burn itself out.

[Logan]

Ignoring is the only way that it will happen, Molly, you're right. But the problem is that some people keep on coming back at them and can't just "ignore". Do you know that I finally turned the "ignore this person" feature on today, for the first time. I had never done that before, but probably should have. It's a great tool, only you can see all the posts where people "quote" the one I'm ignoring, so I still have to endure them.

I don't have much tolerance, so it is probably a good thing that I have no managing powers here because I'd be deleting and/or banning every time I saw a troublemaker. It is hard for me to believe that there are so many unhappy people in this world that they would and do cause trouble on a pet site, of all places!!!

And Gini, I agree. We probably miss some pretty funny and good threads by leaving them when they erupt into arguments, but my patience grows weary, quickly, like yours. Surprised at that comment? Hehehe!!!

[Tonya]

I agree. It is frustrating to have to weed through the garbage on the posts. I feel bad when I see people get slaughtered in here. We are all entirely different people from different places on the planet. We are also a huge variety in ages. We have everything from 10 years old to 70 years old here. We are all going to have different ways and beliefs. I don't want to put anyone on ignore because I don't have any problems with anyone in specific. Our love for pets is what brought us all together, and we should keep that in mind.

[anna_66]

Like you Logan, I've thought very hard and I am for the first time using the ignore. I really didn't want to, I just get so tired of all the bs

[Randi]

Gini, I too agree with you. It it so time consuming to sift though all of that garbage people could send to each other in a PM. Most of it is fit for a chatroom, not PT! Many threads are going right off track within the first few pages with all this BS!

[Nomilynn]

I TOTALLY agree! I just recently started using the ignore too, something I've never felt I had to do before. It was disheartening, but I too, don't want to have to wade through all the trash.

I also think it's just as annoying when a thread is taken over by a conversation that ISN'T trashy or insulting.. it's just something that should be handled via PM's or an internet chat program. People - if you want to have a private conversation, or one that involves only two of you, PLEASE take it off the public forum! It's just common courtesy!

[Cinder & Smoke]

Originally posted by Logan
Ignoring is the only way that it will happen...

But the problem is that some people
keep on coming back at them and
can't just "ignore"!!

As for "City Hall"...

Trust me, the Mayor IS aware of this *problem* ...

and is just as frustrated as most of us are!

But if you've followed along over the years;
whenever "disciplinary actions" HAVE been taken in the past...
There IS /(has) always been a hue & cry raised by *some* that ...
> the Offender was "singled out"...
> "others" do it without punishment...
> it wasn't "that" bad...
> WHY was so-and-so tossed off...
> etc, etc, etc...

It's NOT easy to be "Mom" (or "Dad") to
this huge collection of Very Diverse individuals!
(Just ask da Head Bunnie! )

[mugsy]

I have used the "Ignore" option quite frequently. I just figure if I put them on ignore I can make them go away in my mind. I have been hurt enough on here and been so mad I want to spit nails, so, when it didn't stop, I put them on ignore. Some have been removed and some have stayed on and will remain on forever, but, I am allowed to enjoy myself again.

[Pam]

Thank you for this thread Gini. Count me in as "one of the frustrated." I have used the Ignore feature many times in the past, and it's funny because some of those that I had on "Ignore" have gone. I guess they burned themselves out as I don't believe their purpose for being here was really pets at all. Somehow, though, I always have at least one person on my list, as I do right now.

posted by Mugsy: I just figure if I put them on ignore I can make them go away in my mind.

[Kfamr]

I'm not sure if you're talking about me at all (please PM me Gini, and tell me if you are?? ) But, I'm not sure ignoring will work. I KNOW Banning will though, which with some, should have been done LONG ago.

[RICHARD]

Being a HUGE fan of corny puns and wordplay I have often wondered about how many people I cheese off by hijacking and
thread and taking it into a totally different direction.

I apologize to you all for that, but I'd like to say that some of the interaction in and direction of threads are really fun to follow....

Yeppers,
I can do without the animosity and snippy remarks, but why let it ruin your fun????

Consider it a pothole and steer around it. Sometimes we hit a vein, nerve or bad day and EVERYTHING is gonna bother us.

There are times I have been in heated discussions with people, but, I think I try to see where people are coming from- when that doesn't work I do not bother with the rolley eyes icon, I do it myself and save the keystroke for a something worth my while.

There are people that I truly like, admire and love to read their posts-especially when i can lure them into thinking, laughing and a really silly state of mind.

The bottom line is respect- I HATE THE TERM "DIS"- You earn a person's respect by 'talking' to them, listening to what they have to say and in the end you can say to each other, "o.k. i see your point-let's agree to disagree.."


The first rules about posting should be-

How stupid and childish will I LOOK if I post this.

If you are looking for trouble and want to 'dis' someone
people will have no problem seeing that....you'll look like a moron and people will lose resepct for you-

what's more important?

getting back at one person? or losing the respect of ALL THE PEOPLE reading your post?

[Edwina's Secretary]

Anybody remember in the movie (or play) Fiddler on the Roof when the people of Anitevya go to the Rabbi and say...."Rabbi, you say there is a blessing for everything. Is there a blessing for the Czar?" And the Rabbi responds...."God bless and keep the Czar...far away from us!"

So, I don't engage with those who enjoy angry, mean exchanges. I use the ignore in my head. I'm sorry though that they mess up some fun threads!

[popcornbird]

Gini, I don't always have enough tolerance to ignore annoying people, but I can tell you that I vow to ignore the person from now on. From now on, let's all pretend annoying people didn't say a word when they say something annoying or disrespectful. If we do it together, I'm sure they'll give up and forget about it.

I know I did answer her back, but I've seen that its not worth it and only makes things worse. No more of that from me.