Sad Update

[NicoleLJ]

My therapist helped me come to the conclusion a while ago that I needed to down size the amount of pets I had in the house if I was ever to move. Which I have to do at the end of January. SO sadly I am selling the cats, my dream cats. It is ripping my heart out that I am being made to make this decision. And I went back and forth on whtether to sell Luca or Ajax. I have finaly settled on selling Luca. He will adjust faster to a new home. Plus Ajax is going through this teenage phase of barking at everything that moves, twitches, thinks of moving and so on.

So I am enrolling him in an obience course after the holidays. It is only 90 dollars but I think it will be worth it and hopefully my Avon will end up paying for it.

SO that will leave Sheena and Ajax. I am not doing this for the money, or because I want to. I am doing it because I have to. I have to make sure I can get a decent place to rent for me and the kids and the dogs. My church said they are going to help me.

Anyyway I hope no one hates me for my decision. And I am sorry if You do. Trust me I hate me for it.

[blue]

Unfortunently you are doing what you have to, and you are also looking out for the best interests for your pets. If anybody hates you for making this decision isnt in your position.

[Taz_Zoee]

Oh Nicole, this has to be a heart breaking decision for you. But it is what must be done. And I'm sure you will find excellent homes for the babies.

You take good care of yourself, your children and Sheena and Ajax.

[cyber-sibes]

I'm so sorry, Nichole. I know this is breaking your heart. You must do what you have to for you & your kids' best interests, and I think it takes a lot of courage to give up so much in order to rebuild a better life. No one can make these decisions except you, and everyone should honor your decisions. Hang in there, it takes a while, but life will be better.

[RICHARD]

Anyyway I hope no one hates me for my decision. And I am sorry if You do. Trust me I hate me for it.

LIke, why would we hate you for trying to speak on an animal's behalf?
You can only do as much as you can and after that you may be hurting the animals you are trying to help.

Sometimes you have to let go and put your faith in the work you have done and what the future holds after that.

Stop and think of what would have happened had you not done your part.

Now,
Put your trust in the future and try to still make a difference.

[jennielynn1970]

Instead of selling the cats (and Luka, unless you can sell him to a reputable breeder), why not adopt them out to a family who will take care of them? Just make sure that the people fill out an application, do a vet check, a home visit.

Hope that all goes well for you and your pets. I don't think anyone would be angry at you, you have to do what is best for you and for the welfare of your pets. No one would envy your position, I am sure.

[Reachoutrescue]

We do not hate you....you are doing what you have to do for your pets, your children, and yourself. I hope all goes well and they find great homes. Good luck and chin up.

[Catty1]

Maybe ask for an adoption fee - you know, the usual cautions about 'free to a good home'. I know you may have spent money on them, maybe getting them or just everything you have put into them (and that is a LOT), but maybe look at what you are asking for them, and if that will work so close to Christmas.

An adoption fee and a wonderful home - you won't even make back what you put into them, but they will get good homes.

{{{{hugs}}}}

[Medusa]

This definitely falls into the "people first" category. I can't imagine that anyone would hate you for doing what's best for your family, especially when you're having to make a whole new start. You're not tossing your furkids out on the street to fend for themselves. You're considering their best interests and no one can ask for more when you're attempting to do the right thing.

[moosmom]

Nicole,

I know how difficult it is for you to have to play eenie-meenie-minie-moe with the furbabies. I've had to do it and it's not easy. But you have to think about what is best for you and for your pets. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers, honey. If you need help trying to place anyone, let me know. I've got alot of contacts.

(((((((HUGS))))))))

Donna and crew

[Karen]

Folks, I think that it is just a matter of wording - "selling" or "adopting out with a fee" - it's the same thing, right? I'm sure that is what she means.

And Nicole, no one would fault you for this. It is a hard decision, but a necessary one. And I am sure they will go on to bless their new homes. Maybe send them on with a note about Pet Talk, and their new homes can keep us in touch with their growth.

[Alysser]

Nicole, I'm sorry it eventually came to this for you. You are making the right decision for everyone involved. I'm always for finding a new home for the animal if nessacary IF the home is good of course, and we know you will find the Kitties a Luca a great home.

[Cataholic]

I am sorry to hear this. AND, only since you posted, I will tell you MY opinion. I wouldn't do it. I am familiar with therapists/counselors/LSW, etc. I have never known one that dictates a course of action for the patient to follow. And, even if one did, I would never let someone else's course of action rule mine, especially when it goes against my heart.

One time I made a decision to rehome a cat. I had all the 'right' reasons. I regret it to this day, and this was almost 20 years ago. I will never do it again. Never.

I would encourage you to come to some other conclusion.

[Medusa]

[QUOTE=Cataholic;2091834]I am sorry to hear this. AND, only since you posted, I will tell you MY opinion. I wouldn't do it. I am familiar with therapists/counselors/LSW, etc. I have never known one that dictates a course of action for the patient to follow. And, even if one did, I would never let someone else's course of action rule mine, especially when it goes against my heart. QUOTE]

Y'know, after reading this I feel that I have to agree. I know that I posted that you're doing what you feel you must and I don't want to appear wishy-washy. However, this thread haunted me because I've often wondered if I would have the strength to rehome my cats if I had to. I'm not telling you what to do, however, I support your decision to do what's best for your family and your cats. I do agree w/Cataholic, though, that a therapist doesn't or shouldn't tell you what course of action to take. If you feel in your heart that you were coerced in any way, take a little more time to rethink the situation. This is a big decision and an irreversible one at that.

[Cataholic]

To further address Medusa's comments, I would never make a monumental permanent decision based on a temporary or projected situation. And, I do feel comfortable using the word 'never'.

I don't say these comments to judge you, but, I do say them to make sure you are really thinking through your decision. Again, I would not have posted/meddled, had you not made a public thread about it.