Giving Notice to Friends

[NicoleLJ]

Tonight I had a true friend step up and let me truly know how I am thought of on the forums and groups. The rumors and lies people have chosen to believe and make up. It is really sad that people feel a need to do that. She provide proof by way of parts of other peoples emails, don’t worry no names were ever mentioned. She herself didn’t believe any of it thank goodness. But as a true friend let me know. Here is what she sent me:

- Look, I'm really sorry to have to tell you this but no way can I find a place for the dog Nicole is giving up. When I went for my CGC yesterday, I knew I could come back with a basket full of names and homes...NOT... The minute I explained what I was looking for, people asked questions and I filled them in as best I could....I didn't have to go any further than the name Sheena and people almost attacked me…First off everyone was aware of her and her dog. Seems Sheena is not a SD and neither will Ajax be one. Sheena was supposed to be removed from SD work after lunging and baring teeth at someone in a store, not the first time it would seem. Also, Nicole is well known and the fact remains that her disabilities are non existant. They gave me the name of a woman and told me to google it and I would find Nicole's replica. The whole thing was a game she was playing to get on welfare and they are now apparently trying to get hubby on the same.
All this bothered me a great deal, but it seems they bashed their kids on a steady basis and have lost them, something you forgot to mention. [Nicole - why would I tell him this? Just so you know I was just asking about a place for Luca].
Anyway, I did google the name I was given and did find out what the game was…so I am bowing out of the situation.
Sorry it turned out this way, but you seem to be caught in the middle . Don't even know if you are being honest with me anymore . I hope you weren't just putting me on and you really are unaware that you are being used.
I am just giving you the bare minimum of what I was told (I saw proof of it) so no one was lying. I don't want to go into the real bad details because it's really none of our business I guess.But I wanted you to understand I can't jeopordize myself or my friends for someone like this. Again, sorry about the whole thing. Hope she finds what she is looking for....


The things I found out just plain turned me off. I just finished reading some very disturbing posts that someone mailed me and everything I heard yesterday seems to add up. She is not a vicitim here but rather the attacker. The posts date back to 03-04 and it is very obvious that she has no disabilities, she has been kicked off many SD sites for being caught up in her lies. The abuse and neglect her kids suffered because of the two of them is incomprensible in my world. As for this SD thing, it seems she is looking to have hubby put on disability also, this way hey can be home free.
From the posts I read ,she is downright dangerous. She is vindictive, manipulative and uses forums to get even or cause trouble for others.
Just so you know I am refusing on a legit basis.
And this stalker game she plays has been going on since 02 so I think it's part of a ploy also...she was also told in no uncetain terms she was a troublemaker.
Sad to say but the posts I have in front of me are the most disgusting thing I've read in a long tome...and they are hers, some she was using a name of Isabeau... but I recognized it was her by the white shepherd talk.
Just so you know I'm not bowing out for nothing. I don't think I'll bother mailing Nicole, I really don't care what she thinks.
Take care


You are not the first one to be in the middle believe me, after reading the posts I have here it's inbelievable that someone could make up so much stuff.
Don't worry about the authorities. I was told that the RCMP had posted someone in her town to keep an eye out on her, she is walking into big trouble coming to Ontario. I think she might have "Indian Status", and heard how much stuff they get out here. But they also keep a tight rein on people like her. I think maybe that might have something to do with their running away.
One thing that appalls me is that they aren't taking the kids, leaving them for the system to raise, Probably better from the beatings and neglect they were going through at the hands of Nicole and hubby. Seems the had a nine yr old that was beat enough to require hospital care...go figure...that doesn't fly with me.
Anyway, I really couldn't care less what Nicole thinks or says, don't feel obligated to get involved for my sake. I really don't care if you tell her the reason I am not helping.

This has been going on for 4 years now where all these rumors have been past around. Has anyone ever asked for proof, I sure would like proof that my daughter ended up in the hospital from being beaten. So would my doctor for that matter. These rumors are so sickening and tiresome that I am just as my title says. Bowing out. Not because the rumors are right and I can’t defend myself but because I am tired of always providing proof and more rumors just keep popping up. If you don’t know the facts ask the source. This is to much like high school. So the bullies can now go on to someone else and make rumors about them and keep the forums. For my friends you know how to find me.

Bye the way I am Irish, Jewish and French. Not native, at all/ Some will get the meaning of that. And hubby is not disabled he actually just finished his journeyman status for Welding. Imagine that.
Nicole

[sparks19]

I'm so sorry you have to deal with these people whose lives are so sad and pathetic that they have nothing better to do than this.

LOL how would they even GET all this info if it were true... are they stalking you? lol

PATHETIC in the first degree.

[Catty1]

{{{{hugs}}}}

I hope all this crap settles down and you might come back some day.

[kt_luvs_kitties]

I have NO idea what is going on, but what I do know is that people are always going to be two faced, and lie, and gossip. If I were you I would ignore it, and keep close with my TRUE friends.

Hope you decide to stay. *HUGS* Katie and kitties and Pups

[shais_mom]

I too, have no idea who did this to you and what happened but I'm sorry.
Please take care.

[Alysser]

Please don't leave, Nicole. You just came back. Take care and come back when you feel ready. I'm sorry this happened to you, I have no idea what truely went on and I'm sorry it did.

[sasvermont]

Nicole, I have such bad feelings about gossip and hateful comments such as these. I must say that there is usually some reason (not necessarily good reasons) for folks to dream up such nonsense - and I cannot say it's always fair to the people involved. I have not a clue as to the whats and wherefores about your life and family's. I just cannot imagine someone making all of this up .... but would love to give you the benefit of the doubt. Some of the comments by this person and by you , in earlier threads, are so vague that it doesn't make sense to anyone on the outside loop. There always seems to be this mystery involved. Why are they so sure about their facts? Do people sit around and just dream up stuff like this?

Anyway, I think by posting it here, it is adding insult to injury. Just walk away from it if it isn't true. I for one, would never have known about the post you copied and pasted in this thread.

I don't usually get involved in threads like this....the drama is often too much ...and I seldom know what to believe.

All this said, I hope you get things back on track with your friends and that you can take the high road......get on with your life and be happy.

This thread is just tooooo confusing ......

I am sorry for your discomfort.

Sas

[carole]

Woah, i am totally taken aback by this thread, i have no idea what is going on either, is this from PT or some other forums, honestly some people have nothing better to do than gossip or make up things and make other's lives a misery, just remember you are better than that, and don't give in to them, i am sure none of us here believe this nonsense anyhow, so why not stay, show them that they cannot get to you, and just move on, it certainly must be very upsetting though, HUGS.

[Cookiebaker]

Wow.

But i am wondering what the good is in this thread? are you trying to clear your name? If they say lies about you, just walk away. They can only get under your skin if you let them. Just go on and be happy in your life...you know who you are, you know what's real in your life, you know what makes you happy and what you live for. Just walk a way, don't look back, and breathe a little deeper knowing that they don't have the power to make you unhappy.

[sparks19]

yeah it's all well and good to say just walk away....

But when they are claiming she PHYSICALLY ABUSES her children?

honestly would any of you just ignore that?

that is insane.


No way in the world would I just ignore claims that I beat my daughter. that is not something you just ignore.

[jennielynn1970]

I think unless they've met you in person, and actually know you, then whatever has been said just needs to be taken as such. I, for one, have only ever seen your posts on PT and PMd you a few times, so would never presume to even think such things about you and your family.

The fact that someone(s) actually googled your name, that's kind of creepy.

I hope you just walk away from what they've said. You know yourself and your family and what's gone on.

I'm so sorry that this is happening.

[Jessika]

By leaving though, its almost like you're letting them win. Obviously not everyone here thinks of you like that. To be honest, I DON'T know you that well to pass any judgement on you either way. Sadly, not everyone is like that and love to jump to conclusions and form coincidences they think are factual. People like that need some immodium for the diarrhea they're spewing from their mouths.

I guess what I'm trying to say though, is not to necessarily ignore them, but by doing things like leaving or making threads about it is giving them attention, which is what they want. People like that LOVE to create waves and watch the ripple effect. They love it. They live for stuff like that, they love seeing their words hurt people, or how their words affect people.

So while I can't say "don't let it get to you!" because making false allegations such as you're beating your daughter to the point of being hospitalized is very extreme and I'm not quite sure I would ignore stuff like that, either, but on the whole, sometimes you just gotta ignore them. If they don't get attention, they have nothing left to "feed" on.

[moosmom]

What Sasvermont said!!!

[Kinkyo]

I do not know you but running is a sign of guilt in most cases? Where are your children now? Scarey, fishy situation, shame!

[caseysmom]

Walking away from a situation like that is not a sign of guilt. I totally disagree with that.