He contacted me again, what do I do?

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03-16-2007, 08:30 PM
jennielynn1970

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Originally Posted by king2005

GAH!!! What on earth do I do?

What you do is stop talking to him all together. Men do not take hints. They need actual, full on, direct words telling them WHAT NOT TO DO. Then leave it at that.

If he comes back, if he calls, if he shows up at your door, whatever it is, document it, but DO NOT confront. Do not acknowledge him. If he becomes irate and pounds on the door or harasses you at work, or just keeps figuring out ways to get your attention, put an end to it. Immediately. Go to the
police. Get a restraining order. Protection from Abuse (PFA). Whatever your area calls it, get it.

He will know that you mean business, and if he has changed, he'll realize he's being a jerk and go away. If he persists, that you really care for him and all that other delusional stuff, he's got MAJOR issues. Make sure it the authorities know. Make sure you notify the cops whenever he shows up. People who behave like that are just wack jobs waiting to have some kind of personality disorder, attack you, hurt (or kill) you, then plead insanity and tell the judges that they were off their meds and had no idea what they were doing.
03-16-2007, 08:35 PM
jennielynn1970

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Originally Posted by king2005

Thats the problem, I cannot change my MSN.. I am kingrattus all over the internet & have been for nearly 8yrs now... I was kingrattus here too, but I wont go there... Everything I have & do is Kingrattus... I love Kingrattus & cannot part with it because of a guy... GAH... this sucks, why couldn't he just have stayed away

Kingrattus is a name. You can pick another one.

Unless you like the drama and want the thrill of him coming back to you, you'll change it.

If you take his actions seriously, change it.

If you don't, keep the name and then deal with the repercussions.

If he ends up being a freak and hurting you, well... at least you still have your screen name.

Sorry. Sounds mean, but sometimes you have to look past things the small things and at the bigger picture.
03-16-2007, 09:24 PM
wombat2u2004

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Originally Posted by Brody's Mum

Run ladies................................ :eek:

Oh God no.....I don't need any more running after me....LOL
Wom
03-16-2007, 09:39 PM
king2005

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Originally Posted by jenn_librarian

Kingrattus is a name. You can pick another one.

Its just a dog, get a new one.

Thats kinda how I feel. I have money invested in it & its part of me. I'm not changing who I am because of some guy. I've already lost just about everything I've owned & what I have left I'm not giving up.

I was hoping there was a way around dealing with the police & not changing my name... The only option is to talk to the ploce about the issue, which I already mentioned earlier I was going to do.
03-16-2007, 10:21 PM
columbine

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Originally Posted by king2005

The only option is to talk to the ploce about the issue, which I already mentioned earlier I was going to do.

Good plan! Even if they say "there's nothing we can do until he's broken a law," say "what's the definition of harassment and how do I document it" and ask them about local anti-stalking resources. You'll have to do some detective work, but don't reinvent the wheel - find the people who've already blazed the trail for people in your area.

Love, Columbine
03-17-2007, 02:55 AM
wombat2u2004

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Originally Posted by columbine

Good plan! Even if they say "there's nothing we can do until he's broken a law," say "what's the definition of harassment and how do I document it" and ask them about local anti-stalking resources. You'll have to do some detective work, but don't reinvent the wheel - find the people who've already blazed the trail for people in your area.

Love, Columbine

And on top of that...get the police to actually document the fact that you had made a complaint. I don't know what it's like where you come from....but here they do that anyway.
That way...if something happens in the future, thats added ammo for your cause.
Wombat
03-17-2007, 07:39 PM
Scooter's Mom

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Originally Posted by king2005

Thats the problem, I cannot change my MSN.. I am kingrattus all over the internet & have been for nearly 8yrs now... I was kingrattus here too, but I wont go there... Everything I have & do is Kingrattus... I love Kingrattus & cannot part with it because of a guy... GAH... this sucks, why couldn't he just have stayed away

For your own safety, you'd be amazed at what you can actually do.

I know too many people who have had ex-boyfriends harm them, TWO who have died at the hands of an ex-boyfriend they felt sure would never actually hurt them, and a minor little thing like a computer username would never hold me back from protecting myself.

Please, be cautious.
03-17-2007, 08:27 PM
catnapper

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Originally Posted by king2005

Its just a dog, get a new one.

Thats kinda how I feel. I have money invested in it & its part of me. I'm not changing who I am because of some guy. I've already lost just about everything I've owned & what I have left I'm not giving up.

I was hoping there was a way around dealing with the police & not changing my name... The only option is to talk to the ploce about the issue, which I already mentioned earlier I was going to do.

Ummm.... its not the same as "just a dog". A better analogy would be comparing it to your locks. If someone said to change your locks after you were robbed, wouldn't you? So what if you'd have to give your parents and dog sitter new keys..... those who know and love you will get the new keys (or email add.) and those that you want to keep away won't be able to come through the door.

Honestly, a name isn't worth your safety no matter what your name is. ESEPCAILLY since its just an internet name. Many of people willingly change their real names to keep themselves safe. So why fight to keep a madeup one?
03-17-2007, 08:51 PM
wombat2u2004

""Many of people willingly change their real names to keep themselves safe.""

Well I don't.....my real name is Wombat....that's what my mother named me......and I'm sticking to it. (Actually my real name is Loretta...but I can't tell you that)
Wom
03-19-2007, 04:56 AM
Pawsitive Thinking

[QUOTE=wombat2u2004Well I don't.....my real name is Wombat....that's what my mother named me......and I'm sticking to it. (Actually my real name is Loretta...but I can't tell you that)
Wom[/QUOTE]

As I said before.....typical Aussie :rolleyes: :D

Thanks for the laugh - are you on the Sheila's Wheels advert? I'd guess you are the one in the middle
03-19-2007, 05:51 AM
wombat2u2004

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Originally Posted by Brody's Mum

As I said before.....typical Aussie :rolleyes: :D

Thanks for the laugh - are you on the Sheila's Wheels advert? I'd guess you are the one in the middle

Hehehehe.......well I wouldn't mind being the one in the middle...or should I say...I wouldn't mind being WITH the one in the middle....lol.
As for Loretta....I just couldn't help myself when I posted that....I had just finished watching "The Life of Brian"......and everytime I see that "I want to be a woman" bit with Eric Idle.....I fall off my chair....lol (can't get enough of that one...lol).
03-19-2007, 08:13 AM
Catty1

Wombat: "WHAT'S YOUR FAVOURITE COLOUR?" :D
03-19-2007, 09:13 AM
wombat2u2004

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Originally Posted by Catty1

Wombat: "WHAT'S YOUR FAVOURITE COLOUR?" :D

Well I could say pink.....just for Brody's Mums sake.... :eek:
But I'd best tell the truth..........it's red !!!!! :p
Is that good ????
( Say's Wombat waiting for the clanger that is about to befall him) LOL
Wom
03-19-2007, 09:16 AM
Pawsitive Thinking

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Originally Posted by wombat2u2004

Hehehehe.......well I wouldn't mind being the one in the middle...or should I say...I wouldn't mind being WITH the one in the middle....lol.
As for Loretta....I just couldn't help myself when I posted that....I had just finished watching "The Life of Brian"......and everytime I see that "I want to be a woman" bit with Eric Idle.....I fall off my chair....lol (can't get enough of that one...lol).

Are you a lumberjack?

He cuts down trees, he wears high heels,
Suspenders and a bra,
He wants to be a girlie,
Just like his dear papa????
03-19-2007, 09:20 AM
wombat2u2004

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Originally Posted by Brody's Mum

Are you a lumberjack?

He cuts down trees, he wears high heels,
Suspenders and a bra,
He wants to be a girlie,
Just like his dear papa????

Of course I'm a lumberjack !!!!!
Would you like me to sing the chorus to that ???? LOL
Wom

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