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BTW, I pierced my belly button when I was 15 (I am 27 now). I had my ring out through my entire pregnancy with Jaden (when I was 19) and through this entire pregnancy. The hole will not heal up for me. I have to keep a thick ring in it because the hole has gotten stretched out and big over the years. It is old for me, I'd love to have a plain belly button, but I don't have a choice. The scars don't always heal up well.
Haha *edit* I am getting so old that I forget my age. I'm 26. :o
You really have to be sure what you want and most importantly when. I got my ear pierced when I was 17 and my mum freaked. Still I had left home by that stage so there wasn't a lot she could do about it. I still wear a small diamond in my ear and I'm 40. My partner has quite a few, about 6 in each ear, and she has one in her belly button. She also got some tatto's when she was young and unfortunately it is something that she has really regretted getting done. She was one of the first people in Aus to get laser removal surgery done, and back then the process wasn't any where near as good as it is today. A huge scar on her arm was the result.
Personnally I do not like tatto's what so ever, but I don't mind some piercings if tastfully done. Just wait a bit Amber, some people here have suggested doing research on it, which is great advice. Just dont end up like Edward Scissor Hands. ;)
On another note, we have schnauzers too, :D there our kids really and we love 'em to bits.:D
As a parent: NO NO NO! :D
Our reason? It has nothing to do with what we consider ugly. It has to do with the fact that you are putting a permamnent hole in your lip. We say that if you are old enough and mature enough to be living on your own, working to pay for your way (living on your own in a dorm room doesn't count! :p ) and making it in the world as a mature responsible person, then yes go ahead and put holes in your lip, or anywhere else you want. Because at that time you are making all your decisions for yourself, from what type of bread to buy at the grocery store, to when to do your laundry, to how much to leve in your checking account.
Living on your own, are able to know if you really want it. You are now doing things and making decisions out of neccesity and real sheer WANT. A lot of younger people think they want something because the crowd is doing it. Then they move on and stop and think "What on earth was I thnking?" I know I did! Wow, I look at some of my pwn picture wheres I thought I looked like hot stuff and cringe! LOL At least none of mine left permanent holes or marks that as an adult I no longer identitfy with.
My husband and I have "put it simple" to our kids. If they want holes or tattoos... and they come home with one before they are out of the house, they'd better start packing. They know we are serious. This is a cardinal sin in our house. We tell them they can do anythign they want, but two cardinal sins: 1) don't kill your brain cells with alcohol and drugs. 2) Don't put permanent markings or holes on/in your body.
I pretty much knew I wanted tatoos when I was in high school. I wouldn't get one on a whim. However, all of us don't hate our tatoos. I love mine and don't regret any of them. But, as stated earlier, I didn't get my first one until I was 31. You've got plenty of time to make sure of what you really want.
Ok, so I'm not a mom. But this is my take on it.
I have a now 17 yr old niece who nagged, nagged, nagged and nagged some more at her mom to get her piercings. She would always say no. So what did my niece do? She did them herself or had a friend do them.
If it were me, I would rather she go to a professional and not let friends do them.
I see nothing wrong with piercings, they are holes that normally heal up with minimal scarring. I had my nose and belly pierced at one time (if it weren't for my job I'd probably still have my nose ring, I think they are cute:D).
But it is your moms house and you are only 14 and really have to do what she says. So....guess for now you'll have to wait!
Anna, lol... my daughter tried to pierce her ear up top after she nagged nagged nagged (nagging WILL NOT work, the more you ask and "keep on her" etc the worse your chances of getting it.)
Anyway, my oldest daughter decided to do it herself with her cousin. Ash got the infection of all infections. She cried nightly over it. Her cousin? Not just infected, but she had to haveSURGERY to correct it. It was infected that badly. There is a reason professionals do this type of thing.
And what did we do while she had this infection? We helped her clean it and reminded her of all the pain she was in. Thus house rule cardinal sin #2 was born! :D
PS: Nagging, etc will not work... but going out to get it done to spite your parents as soon as you are old enough is worse! Wait a bit once you are on your own to see if its something you really want for yourself, or something you want to spite your parents. I remember something I did to spite my dad... it was an awful experience! God, how stupid I was! It ended up hurting ME in the long term.
My mom said no, so I pierced my belly button with a safety pin. *cringes* I did such a lousy job that I somehow have a black dot tattoo next to the piercing hole. I don't remember for sure, but I believe the safety pin had mascara on it (I used them to seperate my lashes) and I poked myself when it was dirty. I noticed, cleaned it off, and tried again. After that, mom decided to let me get things done profesionally.
I think piercings on the face are disgusting myself. And the tongue piercing is totally GROSS! I haven't seen anyone with a tongue piercing that didn't keep their mouth open so everyone could see it or their tongue stuck out so it could be seen.. I have NO desire to look at someones tongue for any reason and I have come close to throwing up several times because of that...
Face peircings DO take away from the beauty of that face for the simple fact that they are there and that is what most people focus on when they look at you. You want something that compliments the way you look... NOT to distract from it.
As a person who use to hire people, I would NOT allow that in my place of business simply as a safety factor and it is not allowed where I work now.
As far as ears go, I like ears piercing until they go overboard and all you see it a line of ear ring backs poking out. I like it simple and non distracting..
I didn't get my ears pierced until I was 40, and my daughter pushed me into it. She was right. I look much better with earrings. She had a couple of piercings in her ears at the time, but never wears earrings anymore:rolleyes:
My 20 year old nephew just got his tongue pierced. I can't bring myself to talk to him anymore. That silver ball is the only thing I can look at!
His mother (my sister) has several tattoos and keeps adding them. Most of them are pretty tasteful, but she has to watch how she dresses.
Sounds like a lot of pain, money and aggravation to me. I'll pass.
Mary
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Originally posted by Oggyflute
On another note, we have schnauzers too, :D there our kids really and we love 'em to bits.:D
oh wow you guys, you sound just like my mom! :p
Nobody here has piercings other than their ears, so its not a fad, and I dont understand why you cant have piercings for certain jobs? Its not hurting noone is it?
I have my belly button pierced and I am 44..got it done on my 44th bday as a matter of fact last summer. I love it..I have double piercings in my ear lobs..and did have the top lob pierced but it just would not get well putting on and taking off a motorcycle helmet..so I took it out..and I have 4 tattoos..all very tasteful...2 on shoulder and 2 on hip. But that is where I draw the line..no facial piercings altho I do think the tiny diamond in the nose is pretty. I just wouldn't do it. And personally, as a mom, I just don't think a minor should have anything other than regular ear piercings before they are 18. I work at a Jr High and I am amazed at the number of girls who have belly rings at 12 and 13. Or 3 0r 4 ear piercings. That is just way too young imo.
When you get piercings/tattoos, people judge you, even if you don't deserve to be judged. Just think of your opinion when you see a cool peircing or a neat tattoo. Well, lots of other people think they are in bad taste and unprofessional.Quote:
Originally posted by Amber
I dont understand why you cant have piercings for certain jobs? Its not hurting noone is it?
People will judge you just because you have a piercing, unfairly, but they will and do.
Lots of employers will do the same thing.
They could be considered unsafe depending on the type of job you do as well.
I got my tattoo at 19, while I was living at home...but I was paying rent. My mom told me I could do that stuff when I was 18...I'm glad I waited, otherwise I'd probably have NKOTB tattooed on me somewhere!! ;) :eek:
As for my tattoo, I really like it. But, I wish I waited until now to get it done. Its a butterfly and while I'll always like them, I wish I got the flirty black cat I want now, I'll always love cats.
A lot of jobs that require you to work with customers have rules against piercings because it affects the company's image. I hate it but that's the way it is sometimes.Quote:
Originally posted by Amber
Nobody here has piercings other than their ears, so its not a fad, and I dont understand why you cant have piercings for certain jobs? Its not hurting noone is it?
Hey now, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Personally, I think I look far better (my standards) with my metal than without. I may not look more lady-like (pffffft :p) but I look more interesting and unique. Maybe I'm just being weird but I'd rather make myself happy and get pierced, than not do it in fear of having others think I'm "disgusting" or "gross".Quote:
Originally posted by Laura's Babies
Face peircings DO take away from the beauty of that face for the simple fact that they are there and that is what most people focus on when they look at you. You want something that compliments the way you look... NOT to distract from it.
Once I started learning more about piercings and talking to other pierced people, I started seeing piercings and tattoos as an actual form of (body) art. I think some of the stuff is absolutely gorgeous.
Exactly how I see it. Very gorguous art.Quote:
Originally posted by binka_nugget
I started seeing piercings and tattoos as an actual form of (body) art. I think some of the stuff is absolutely gorgeous.
I wouldnt have never thought of that for a job, But the judging I knew of.
In the catering industry you have to be able to take them out. Some of my staff have piercings on their face, and when they are handling food they have to remove them. If they can't remove them for some reason then they don't work. so there are situations where it will restrict you in the type of job that you want or have.Quote:
Originally posted by Amber
yes! :D
oh wow you guys, you sound just like my mom! :p
Nobody here has piercings other than their ears, so its not a fad, and I dont understand why you cant have piercings for certain jobs? Its not hurting noone is it?