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Thank you so much yesterday was an ok day she was talking some girls mad some rumors of the body viewing that really scared Becca horrible what kids say!Becca is at school today she has my cell as im at work at the moment and if need be ill go get her and take her home i work with great people and they understand as some have been through this ill type in later how her day went,The cemetary is also beside her school so she can go visit whenever she wants..Thanks again!
WOW...
Im so sorry your daughter is having to go through such a traumatic experience.
You guys will be in my prayers.
I went cold when I read that! I guess everyone reacts in different ways to death but this is unbelievable!Quote:
Just got back from the funeral it was very intersting i must add the way Mom was acting she was smiling and laughing at the burial i dont know if this was my daughter if i could get enough strength to put a smile on my face!!
You must be so proud of the strength Becca is showing - bless her, she must be totally devastated
I am very sorry for what your daughter is going through right now. It is a very, very sad time for all of you.
But please don't judge the mother too harshly. Having lost my son last summer, I can tell you that until you have lived through something like this you can not even begin to know how you will react. I am sure that some people that saw me at the funeral home too probably wondered why I smiled and laughed (Rob's was a closed casket though and I do think that made it somewhat easier). First off you are so numb, that what is happening is not real. You are also exhausted because you can't sleep and again everything is unbelievable. Some people brought up good and funny memories they had with Rob and you can't help but smile about those special moments. And at times, I had to smile and laugh because the crying and screaming I did at home was not something that I would want too many other people to witness. Death of anyone is hard but the death of a child is the ultimate pain - you have lost your present and your future - you will never be the same and the pain will never go away.
This girl's mother may have not been the best mother in the world but I can't imagine that she is not in great pain now and regretting some of her actions and words.
I will keep your daughter in my thoughts and prayers. At her age our friends are every bit as important to us as our family is. We tell them our secrets and our fears and our happy events and everything in between. And as Lobodeb said she may be feeling the what ifs and if onlys. This is going to be a very difficult time for her and I applaud you for letting her talk and cry and giving her the space from school and others to do it in.
I send also my prayers and thoughts to you and your daughter. Please let her know How many people care for her. It s imoprtant for her to know that. I was suicdal in high school and also lost a freind to it to. so I know both sides. Please on your part keep talking to her and watching for any signs of simular behavior. Sending her a big hug
I'm so sorry you went through that i could not imagine,about Vickie im not saying she did not love Alyse she acted like a lunatic she told all the little girls the graffic details of finding Alyse something my 13 year old daughter could have gone withought hearing also said how deap the cuts in her stomach were in my opinion she is out of this world i know she is grieving everyone has different ways but by the way she acted she lost all my respect.Quote:
Originally Posted by 4 Dog Mother
That does sound like she is not a very balanced woman. Details certainly not necessary - I can understand better why you felt the way you did!
I hope Alyse's mom will be under a doctor's care now...as is everyone connected with this horrible event...too bad it took something like this for her to maybe get the help she has needed for years.
Is she getting any counselling at all?
Hugs to you and Becca.
Catty1
Gosh Lori i have to agree with you and say her mother is acting rather odd , if not bizarre, perhaps it is her unusual way of coping with what has happened, whatever the situation the pain must be unbearable,,although i know your daughter is suffering too, and you along with her,one can only imagine what her mother is going through.
I hope your daughter is doing ok. HUGS.
How tragic, I will keep all of you in my prayers. When I was a kid, my best friend's brother hung himself, he was only 14. I don't think parents realize sometimes just how alienated a kid can get to feeling. I do hope you daughter will go for grief counseling and develope a support group with other friends, they need each other.
how is becca doing now? kindest thoughts, joyce
Alot better!!!!she had a school trip yesterday i went to go pic her up and she was happy and laughing,the girls are now up on all charges and were expelled from school Alyse left a note,which i did not know about till yesterday there is memorial pics of her also on her funeral site so becca wrote her a note and said her good byes she is still grieving she will never be over losing her best friend
4 Dog Mother - thank you for your post. I hope to never experience what you and Alyse's mother have gone through and realise that I should have given sympathy and support instead of criticism - after all, I laughed at my Dad's funeral.
Lori Jordan - Still thinking of your Becca, she is a remarkable young lady
I myself have always chuckled when i'm nervous.But,if my daughter left this world as tragic as that i do not think i could have any feeling inside me to laugh and go on as she did.As far as i'm concerned she and her husband always thought she was a problem child.Kids can be kids but i would never ignore the fact my son/daughter had mental issues that needed to be taken care of.My daughter lost a good friend it is very hard to deal with,So i as a mother have gotten her help as needed that is my job until im no longer on this planet.Whether she is grown with a family of her own.I'm the one that will always be there for her and maybe just maybe if Alyse had that she might still be here today.Now that is just wishful thinking but,if she had someone to guide her through maybe it wouldn't of come down to this right?Anyways thanks for all your thoughts and prayers.
Lori-Anne