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Luvin Labs with all due respect, I think it is easier said than done, that is why so many people stay in abusive situations, until you are in that particular situation, you don't really know how you will react.
I understand where Megan is coming from here, and she is indeed caught in the middle, hopefully she will get the courage to stand up to her mother, but it is not going to happen overnight, none of us have been where she is right now, her situation maybe similar to what some of us have experienced, but it is never exactly the same.
I could be wrong here, but i think Megan still wants to retain some kind of relationship with her mother, regardless of how she has been treated by her, I am sure she still loves her mother, she may feel anger, confusion, even hatred for her at times, but deep down I think Megan just wants a bond with her like every other child.,Megan you can put me right if I am way off base.
I think coming down harsh on Megan is not going to help her deal with the problems she has, she needs, love and support from us here, not criticism,or a rap over the knuckles, I think you mean well, but Megan has a difficult life at the best of times due to this ongoing problem.
Megan my advice is to do what you think is best, if you have the strength to stand up to your mother, then do it sweetie, but do it when someone is there to support you, she will feel less powerful then, and it is a power control technique she is using over you.
Good luck and all the best.:)
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Carole and ilovemyabbygirl
I don't mean to sound harsh, or rude! :) I just see what she is going through and it pisses me off... :mad: I'm sorry if I'm seeming cruel, and I have no idea EXACTLY what she is going through (even though I was in a similar situation)... I just hope she/abbygirl sees that a bunch of people are giving her the same exact advice and a whole helluva lot of support! and one day she takes it... She needs a LONG break from her 'mother' and her control, after she's been away from her for a while she could tentatively try to mend the relationship her 'mother' is ruining. I've seen others go through abusive situations and finally get out of it, I just hope her 'mom' doesn't go so far as to escalate what already is a (IMO) dangerous living situation for abbygirl to realize she needs to take action, and not wishes she could take action...
Anyone want to organize a 'prison break' for her? :(
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Carole, you said everything about me perfectly-- to a T. I do want to have a normal relationship with my mother. Some days I do, thats something I left out. Some days we laugh like best friends (although that happens less and less) and other days I storm in crying and she screaming. I just want to make her happy and have a normal relationship. :(
*hugs to you both*
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*hugs*
I pm'd ya abbygirl :)
I had problems with my mom for a while too, it only calmed down more after I moved out (the whole long distance relationship brings people closer together deal) and wrote her a LONG letter about how she treated me.
Glad to hear you two laugh sometimes!! Hopefully you can retain that after a break from each other...
