Sassy

Today we got Sassy's ashes. I thought maybe, just maybe, a part of the emptiness would go away, but I was wrong. The box was nice enough. It was a wooden with flowers carved on it and a little golden plate that read "sassy", which we will keep instead of the Urn idea I had since we couldn't get exactly what we wanted. Her ashes came in a little velvet bag. Okay, so TECHNICALLY, I have my dog back. But it's obviously not the same:

-never again will I pet her white fluffly fur.
-never again will I save Mr. Bear from a mauling.
-never again will I feed her and make her do stupid tricks for goodies.
-never again will I do anything with her.

I miss her so much..it will never be the same, will it? It's also been a week since she died. Not to mention, the emptiness is still there, as whole as ever.

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I'm so speechless. :(

Alyssa, I am SO sorry I haven't been around whilst you've been through this. Forgive me :(:(. You were such a wonderful friend when I lost both Zsa-Zsa and Tia. I feel in some way as if I have failed you. Sending you HUGE (((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))).

I never knew that pup of yours but I really am going to miss her. She was my personal favourite here on the boards, whenever I logged on I would always check for Sassy updates and pics. That's what I did just now...and found this. :(

May she rest in peace. Anytime you want to talk Alyssa, I shall be here.

Zara, you have not failed me. Do not ever think that. As you said, you will always be there for me, how can I be mad at you? You didn't know Sassy was in such a bad state, niether did anyone else on PT, maybe besides Jenna. I guess I was just afraid of critisim, even though we tried hard to get her back to normal. Thank you to all those who replied.

I appreciate it. I made her a memorial video.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BTeKrk2YbQk

oh ALyssa, I'm so sorry for your loss :(

Rest in peace, Sassy!

:( I'm not around PT as much as I used to be, so am just seeing this now... but I want you to know how very sorry I am to hear about Sassy. You most certainly did do what was best for her. (((hugs)))

I am saddened to hear about Sassy. She was such a fun spirited pup who was loved by many, but especially by you.

It's been three weeks today. :(

I'm so sorry to read about Sassy. I was just looking through the memorials and it's so heart wrenching to see all of these sweet animals that I loved seeing pictures of, now in Memorial.

I hope you are feeling some relief that Sassy is no longer in pain. She is playing and enjoying herself at the Bridge. It is so hard to say goodbye to our beloved pets... my thoughts and prayers go out to you during your grief. Know she is looking down on you and loves you for loving her. Big hugs to you during this time.

Thank you all.

I have one question. WHEN does the pain go away? WHEN will I happily think about her? I can't stand the sense of loss anymore. I hate coming home to no Sassy. No silly quack barking, doggy odor, or a wagging tail. No giving her goodies anymore. She was such a huge part of my life. I just can't imagine completely moving on. Will I ever think about her happily again? Please make this sense of loss go away. :(

There are some days I'm completely fine, but others I want to loose it, knowing she's gone. I'm doing okay overall. But I miss her so much.

I still miss you babe. I wish you would just come home.

The pain will ease up Alyssa, in time. You will always miss her but you will be able to think of Sassy and talk about her and smile. It's really painful, I know.:( {{{hugs}}}

It's been a month since she died today. :( A whole month. Where did time go?

Alyssa, the pain does ease but it takes time & everyone is different {{Hug}}.

Sassy will always be a part of your life, and will be in your heart forever.

It's been over six weeks since she left.

Should I feel guilty for not crying anymore? :(

No, you shouldn`t feel guilty. As time goes on, Sassy wouldn`t have wanted you to cry whenever you thought about her. The happy memories you had with her will take the place of the sadness you feel, and soon not only will you not be crying, but you`ll be smiling. Thinking of all the times that Sassy would make you smile, and laugh. Sassy still can make you smile, Alyssa, except now you have to smile so much wider, so that she can see it from heaven. :love:
{{{HUGS}}}

It is ok that you aren't crying. You may have come to terms that Sassy is at the Rainbow Bridge. Believe me, there will be times, you will shed a tear or break out bawling about her and that's ok too. She's in a wonderful place and happy and healthy again. She wants you to go on, you'll see her down the road one day. Do you talk to her Alyssa? I always talk to Mandy, still over two years later. I will always believe she hears me. And do you talk about her? I'm sure you do. ;)
The other day, making up Lacey's birthday thread and seeing Mandy's picture in my siggy, I broke down. Mandy and Lacey were buddies. :(
Hang in there hon. {hugs}

Aw Alyssa, I don't think you should feel guilty at all. Tears are not the only form of grief, they are just the most immediate. Sassy wouldn't want you to cry over her forever. You will always miss her, but you are moving on from the sadness and you've accepted that she's not gonna be around any more. It's not a bad thing at all. You're being strong and I'm really proud of you for it. :love:

((hugs))

I found Mr. Bear..he still smells like you. Thanks for making me cry all over again. :( I miss you so much.

Wow, it's been over 2 months since you left me.

The words "it was for the best.." and whatever else people say to comfort you are getting old. Maybe that's true, but why does it still feel like I could have done more to save you? I am just sick of feeling sorry for myself when I know I should feel sorry for you. Today was a horrible day for me, I could hardly focus on anything at work, maybe that's why I was in such a horrible mood. People keep saying you're in heaven, that's great and all but YOU'RE NOT here with ME. You shouldn't have died so young, it wasn't fair. Baby, I'm so sorry. :( I STILL miss you! The worst part is no one really understands this feeling. I don't like talking about it with anyone. It just doesn't feel right.

I know, I sound so selfish, but I can't help it. Living without a dog is like living in hell, honestly. I can't wait till I move out so I can get one.

love you sas,

mommy :(

I think this guy knows how I feel-
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O-86nvBVjaY

Sometimes people don't know what to say and what they do end up saying isn't what you want to hear. You want Sassy back, I know. :( Please remember Alyssa, Sassy is with you, she is a part of you and always will be. If you need someone to talk to pm me anytime, ok? {{{hugs}}}

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Originally Posted by Alysser

The worst part is no one really understands

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You may think this, but anyone who has ever lost a beloved pet, feels the same way. She'll always be with you and as time goes by the pain does get easier to bear. There will always be times when you are reduced to tears when you think of Sassy, but you'll find that the times you smile and laugh when you think of her will outnumber the times of sadness. You have so many wonderful pictures and memories of the happy times you spent together, and no one can ever take that away from you. Someday when the time is right and you least expect it, another little furball will wiggle it's way in to your life and your heart. And altho it will never be a replacement of the one you have lost, you'll find that you will again have a very special little friend to share your life - and Sassy will smile down upon you and be so happy for both of you. Please believe me - I've been there! :love:

I know people understand but you still kind of feel isolated from the rest of the world, like no one can understand what pain you're going through. Honestly, before this I never understood the feeling of death when my friends talked about it. I always felt bad and stuff but whenever someone died in my family I was either too young to really understand or I didn't know them that well. Sunny was my first death and it was hard but not nearly as hard as Sas was. Sassy was probably the best thing that ever happened to me and now she's gone. :( I miss her so much.

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Originally Posted by Alysser

I know people understand but you still kind of feel isolated from the rest of the world, Sassy was probably the best thing that ever happened to me and now she's gone. :( I miss her so much.

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Of course you feel isolated, and of course you miss her - that's only natural. Everyone has to deal with loss in their own way - there is no instruction manual on this subject! In my 40+ years of adulthood (yes - I'm OLD enough to be your grandmother) I have lost numerous very precious dogs and cats - some lived a very long life and others not long enough. Every time was different but none the less heartbreaking and I found that I dealt with each loss differently. To this day, I still occassionally get misty-eyed when I think of them and the time we had together. Unfortunately - that time is never long enough! You will feel better even tho you don't think so right now. Just take your time and don't try to rush thru this process. And just remember that Sassy will ALWAYS be with you - she has her pawprint on your heart!:love:
Sparky and Myndi are sending you big doggie kisses:D

Well, I'm crying right now...hard to type. I know you wrote that a couple of months ago...but it is new for me. You expressed my feelings exactly when I lost my Missy. SO hard to let her go, but it was time. Now, I hope you are feeling somewhat better. I had to show you my new precious...named.......Sassy! I'm brand new on Pet Talk and had never read this before so this is purely coincidence: My Sassy is a baby bichon! Makes you wonder about reincarnation! Here she is:

http://i336.photobucket.com/albums/n...yportrait1.jpg

http://i336.photobucket.com/albums/n...cuteSassy2.jpg

Sassy is very cute, and I hope she has brought you happiness after your loss.

I feel better, and have been moving on. I will never completely move on but I'm healing..

My beautiful Jake died about the same time as your Sassy. It has been very difficult. I finally decided that since it didn't seem that I had made much progress in "grieving" (ie, I still sobbed when I look at his pictures and video, think about him every day, etc), I might as well just get another puppy and enjoy the happiness of that.

I don't think you ever "get over" the ones who have your heart, its a bit easier to get through the day, but you still think of them, love them, miss them with all your heart and soul. All you can do is find the ones you can love, and do the best for them that you can.

Jake's mom

Tommorow will be 3 months since you died. I still love you, wuppy. :love: I hope you're having a great time at the RB baby, I can't wait to see you again. :)

Oh gosh, Alyssa, I had no idea Sassy had passed on. I am so sorry. I understand what you are going through with grieving. My childhood dog was absolutely my best friend growing up and his death was the most difficult thing I'd dealt with at the time, even though I'd lost family members before him. I hope it's getting easier for you, but if not now, someday, you'll be able to look back without being sad. I know now when I think of Buttons, I don't cry anymore, but it took me a while to get there. It's been almost four years now since he died and it's funny how some things still seem like just yesterday.

Tommorow will be SIX months exactly since you died. WOW, where did time go? It's hard to believe I writing this exact thread nearly 6 months ago, announcing your death. It's just...strange.

Sas, I don't want to say it, but I'm moving on now. I, of course, still miss you. I watch your memorial video every day. It's the least I can do for you since you gave me so much more. Moving on seemed so hard, but remembering the happy times, I never cry anymore. I haven't cried for you in nearly 2 months and I don't feel guilty about it anymore. :) I know I did the right thing for you, it took a story in a book to teach me that, but it's true. You're still the best wuppy in the entire world, everyone misses you and STILL loves you! :love: We're going to volunteer at the SPCA to give our love to more animals. They will never replace you, ever. But, it'll help us a little more. As for you pup, you better be attacking all those Mr. Bears at the Rainbow Bridge for me ;) I hope you are enjoying your NEW back legs and running and sitting on all the boogie boards in the pool. I especially hope you're getting all the goodies you ever wanted, just keep the weight off silly girl LOL.

Your loving mommy,
Alyssa


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I really didn't want to re-surface this but I can't help it. The pain just came back briefly. I was just reading through the thread announcing your death like 5 mins ago and I felt really bad because you had no clue, pup. Sometimes I can be anywhere and just think about that day, and the look you gave me in the car. It hurt so so much :( This isn't really the thing I wanted to post, I wanted to say your birthday is coming up, in exactly 10 days. You would have been 11. That's all, 11? It wasn't fair that this happened to you, you died WAY to young. I don't know why I'm getting all this out now, but I also wanted to thank the piece of Crap vet for NOTHING. First off, he didn't even say "I'm sorry" or anythign along those lines. He gave me a weird look when I left the room to go to the car. I can't believe how rude he was to you. All he had to say was "Her skin and teeth are terrible" and some other s*** I didn't even listen to. SO she had a few skin problems, she had allergies to alot of thngs. You don't say stuff like that to someone who's about to put their dog to sleep, ahole. I was really contemplating on sending him an e-mail after that day but decided not to. I don't know what prevented me from doing this, I'm usually so aggressive with rude A-holes.

Whatever, I didn't mean to bring venom like that into this thread, I just keep thinking about it all the time now that her birthday is getting closer. Maybe I'm still in denial..I don't know. I just feel I don't have anyone to talk to about it in my family because we all get upset over it when it's brought up. I'll make you one last birthday thread, I promise :)

Enjoy the holidays up there, Sas, even though you should still be down here.

Alyssa, it hurts for a long, long time. This first Christmas will be hard for you. I miss seeing your Sassy.:( Cherish your sweet memories of her. {hugs}

Hey, Sassy. Today was Christmas, and to be honest I didn't think of you too much, but tommorrow well..it will be your 11th birthday or should I say would have been. :( You're missed more then you'll ever know wuppy! :love: I think I'm gonna make you a birthday thread, one last time tonight.

Love
mommy

It's been a whole year today since my little puppy was put to sleep. I don't even have words, Sassy. All I can say is I love you and I know now that you're having fun at the bridge with all your new friends and all the treats you could EVER want. :love: Rest in peace, and I cannot believe it's been a year. :eek: You're still missed. :love:

*hugs* Alyssa. Rest easy Sassy, you will be forever loved by your humans.

(((((HUGS))))) To you Alyssa!!:love:

My heartfelt condolences, Sassy was one of the first dogs we "met" on PT. She'll always be with you.

Can anyone explain this to me? I thought the pain was over, but apparently it's not. The last 2 days I've seen pics and heard songs about saying good-bye and I just think of Sassy and cry. Yesterday I was so upset and I felt like such a fool that I closed my bedroom door so no one could see me crying and I had to tell my mom I was on the phone. No one seems to cry or be sad over her around here anymore except me. It's been over a year now, is this normal? Why all of a sudden am I missing her again, I feel like it just happened? :( I've gone for months without crying when I see pics of her and now all of a sudden it sadden me. I swear last night I made the sig I have and honestly didn't even realize what I was doing...ugh I'm just sick of missing her, I just want her home again. I'm not a person who crys often and it just sucks that I think it's a bad thing, I know it's not but it feels so wrong and I feel like a fool crying over her when she's been gone for over a year.

Love you, pup :love:

Hi Alyssa,

i haven't been around in awhile, but i remember you from before.
What you're experiencing at this time is totally normal. It just shows how
much love you had and still have for your beloved Sassy. Don't be too hard
on yourself for feeling the pain, just feel it and come post with it too.
It seems to help some. And it will take a very long time to not feel it
so intensly. You will have good days and bad days, but all the good days you
had with Sassy are yours and hers forever and can never be taken away.
I was really sad to read of your doggie's passing, but she is alive and well
at RB. Take care sweetie, and message me if you like.

*gentle hugs*

Alyssa, what you are experiencing is totally normal. We had a dog, Pepper, when I was young. He was about 12 when he had to go to the Bridge. I was a couple years older than him. I didn't cry that much when he died. Then in high school I had to write a Spring Anthology in my English class. I decided to write about Pepper. I cried so hard while writing that paper, I thought I was crazy.
Things will happen that will bring back memories so vivid. That's when the hurt surfaces all over again.

One thing you have that I didn't have back then is Pet Talk. :)

Hugs to you Alyssa.

Cindy

I lost the first of my 3 Lhasas 15 years ago, and the other 2 followed over the course of the next few years. I still miss them terribly, and have a good cry over them every now and then. I don't feel at all foolish about it, and you shouldn't feel foolish to be crying over Sassy either.

Mikey tried to get Mr. Bear today, I know it's a dog toy, but I felt he couldn't have it. I felt if I gave it to him you would think he has replaced you. The truth is, he didn't and he never will. You both are so different, you both had flaws and great things about you and he can never be you, Sassy :love: Your death still pulls at my heart, even more then a year later. Mikey was from a breeder, and I saw his papers today. I found that his date of purchase was December 26th, 2007. That was your 9th birthday. Maybe he was meant to find us. I love this dog, but I will ALWAYS love you too my wuppy face. I almost called him Sassy yesterday too. :(

I love you and still miss you, thanks so much for sending Mikey to us. :love: We appreciate it sweetheart.