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Gosh the next week will be so hard, not just popping over to "check in" - I don;t know that I could have waited that long when we moved Aunt Bertha into the nursing home, but as we have noted, her memory problems were different than your mom's are. But I bet your mom will settle right in. My tip for visiting loved ones in a nursing home-type place: bring fresh flowers. Staff are more likely to visit the room to enjoy them with her, and she'll love the company!
{{{{hugs}}}} Glad to hear you are feeling better! I am sure you will need to decompress for a while.
Get a Greyhound North America pass and take off for a month! :)
Progress is right! There still will be hurdles but none that will impede your determination. The good life lies ahead somewhere and by golly, girl, you are going to find it. That call from the lawyer imploring you to stay was priceless. I truly would have been disappointed had that one not come in. However, I agree, that it is probably much too late to teach these old dogs new tricks - like treating people with decency and respect.
Now the next phase will be seeing if the new person is able to tolerate the craziness long enough for you to get out the door. I have absolutely no worries that you will find a great job with people who will appreciate your skills and dedication. Cheers and celebrate taking control.
Much love to your mom. That one is still going to be a difficult journey, but the main thing is that she is safe and well cared for. You've done good.
I love the line about giving up the crown. Oh if the new person only had a clue as to what is in store for her.... :rolleyes:Quote:
Originally Posted by sasvermont
You are doing a super job Sallyanne. Everything you are doing has been very well thought out and methodical. I, too, have gone through the breaking down of my mom's apartment and you are wise to not rush through. You have the time, and you don't want to discard something and then wish you hadn't. I had one month to empty out Mom's apartment and it was hard, both physically and emotionally. Thank you again for keeping us updated. It is all good and will be even better once you find the perfect job and..... it is out there! ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by sasvermont
I am so pleased. You thought this through, got ideas, made a plan, followed through and even though it has been a long haul full of emotions, you are definitely seeing "the light at the end of the tunnel." Bless you for all the work you have done for your Mom. now you will a bit more time to focus on you; and the fur kids!
Sallyanne I am thinking of you and wondering if you have had a chance to visit with your mom since the "settling in time" is just about up. If so, how did she seem? I hope all continues to be well with you in this area as well as the job search.
I visited my Mom, a couple of days ago, on Thursday after work, at her new residence and she was thriving. They (the staff) said she was doing nicely, and having a good time of it. I thought she would adjust to the new surroundings easily, as her room is near everything, including the bathroom right next to her bedroom. She must share a bath with another woman, but that's ok. She did not recognize me when I first arrived which broke my heart but then after a few minutes she did say "oh, I didn't recognize you with your hair short"....and I've had my hair short for months now. Oh well. I haven't had long hair for years.
My employer is having me begin to train the new person and my replacement beginning Monday. I hope they let me go after just two weeks of one on one, if not sooner. I am not being very cooperative with the staff etc. at this point, responding to most requests with "gee, that's not going to be my problem soon".... I think by giving them SO much notice of my leaving, it is beginning to drag on the staff's outlook, as well as the attorney's outlooks. They need to get some new blood in there soon, as establish new relationships with her.... Her name is Linnie. Oh well. She seems like a nice enough of a person, but doesn't have the legal experience, which I think is the most important part. Oh well again. Not my problem. The relationship is over when I leave the place on my last day. I have already let them know not to call me.
A new tenant moved in to my Mom's apartment already! (The other person backed out of the lease for April first and the second person wanted the place ASAP!) She moved in on Friday, the first of February! It was a lot of work for me to get all of my Mom's things out of there in such short notice, but hey, I got it done! I gave quite a few things away and kept a few and sold a few. I had to be flexible since time was passing quickly. So success with the Mom/apartment move.
I have been asked to come in for an interview with the one company in South Hero that I applied to in December. At that time, the owner and I talked on the phone and she requested that I call her when I got closer to my departure time. I did contact her via email, and she responded with a "please call me for an interview". Woohoo! It won't pay much, but it is only a couple of miles from my home. I could walk to the place. It is a small import/export business. She said I could wear my PJs to work, since there is no store front etc. I wonder if my nightgowns would be hard to walk in...... :D while trotting down the side of the road? No sidewalks here.
So that is my story at this point. The job thing is just about ending. Still looking for a job, but have far from given up. I haven't really starting looking seriously.
Thanks for thinking of me. I know that my life isn't nearly as complicated as some folks. I have it easy.
Lucy misses my Mom. I don't, for the most part. It is a relief knowing that someone is looking after her and that she is around folks her age and her degree of needs.
Love to all,
Sas and her campers :)
That's all wonderful and positive news. I'm so glad that things are working out for you and I'm sure that you'll find the right job w/just the right pay for you very soon. :)
Thank you for the update Sallyanne. I so heartily agree with the following statement as I felt the same way when I had to face the fact that my mom needed to be in assisted living.
While agreeing totally with that, I understand there may be a bit of guilt as I do live with some of that too. In a perfect world it would be different perhaps, but we deal with the cards we are dealt. My mom too, often does not recognize me. Eventually during the course of the visit she does, though, and has often commented on my *new* hairdo or *new* glasses which are really not new at all. (((hugs))) to you as you go through all of this. It is sooooo not easy.Quote:
Originally Posted by sasvermont
I am laughing at the thought of you in a nightgown heading off to the job! :D As I have said many times, your sense of humor will carry you through. I will keep my fingers crossed for your interview. What could be better than a place of employment being so close by? At the present cost of gas, you could probably take a sizable pay cut and not even feel it! :p
Congrats also on the new tenant and the hasty job you had to do in getting the apartment ready. Once again you have risen to the occasion and no one here is surprised. Continued good luck and best wishes for the future. I know it will be a good one for you! :cool: Please keep us updated! :)
I am so glad to hear your mom is "thriving"; I wonder if she and Pam's mom mention the "new glasses" or "haircut" to cover up their forgetfulness? Like - these women still KNOW they forget, and are embarrassed (that's my own KID! OMG! Cover up! :) )
A jammie job? LOL Sounds cute.
You know - that might just be the ticket for a while if you can afford it. Sounds like a smaller company and less stress (after the learning curve is over).
HUGS! Good news all around!
Just checking in. Glad to read that you are still on track. How nice that things seem Ok with your mom; that certainly helps for you. And a tenant already -- that was quick! Praying that the person works out and stays for a few YEARS to give you time to concentrate on other stuff.
Wasn't there a mini vacation mentioned at some point???
Well, I have had an interesting week. On Monday, "the new person" started and lasted until Friday, 8:30 and then quit. Another person, male this time, will begin on the 20th, or at least that was told to me late Friday. I get to do the "training thing" again, oh boy. The person originally hired was hardly qualified for the position and had the brains to quit before things got too far in front of her and behind me. I am still leaving on the 29th of Feb. Why does all this not surprise me?
The new tenant is really sweet. I am keeping my distance until spring....when we can spend time outside and chat freely. Heather, the new tenant has a little dogie, really sweet guy.... she smokes(the person, not the dog).....sorry, if that offends anyone, the smoking thing.....and since I smoked for years, years ago, I can hardly say its wrong.... She smokes outside....on the porch! Oh well. Lots of folks smoke. All things considered, she's a nice person....and I love her little furry friend. Lucy is not impressed.
I have interviewed for the job I have wanted from day one (working for an import export company, that deals with vet orthro implants imported from Germany and Japan....) of making my career change. I think I have the job, but don't want to seem tooooo eager to work there, and make a pest of myself. During my interview, I said that I really was interested in the job. I got the impression the interview went smoothly. It is a business in the same town I live in, thus allowing me to travel less than 2 miles to work. I am not sure I will call them again, if they don't call me. I will need to move on with the job search if they are not "business like" and let me know their thoughts/feelings about hiring me. We have emailed and chatted and interviewed. What more could I do. My current boss (the managing partner) knows I have listed her as a reference and was evening will to call the company, to recommend me. Wow. I know the managing partner has a motive, so I could care less about references or not from her.
I have "re-ignited" my knitting business so that I can pay for group health insurance via the company. I have a meeting with my accountant on the 21 to discuss the mess and the positive way to deal with my expenses.
It is snowing like crazy right now...and I have dinner plans...so I must run.
Just wanted everyone to know that things are ok. A bit scary, to think that I have only three more paydays, beyond this past Friday. And then, to the positive side, just that many more days left at that awful law firm. It is torture working there now. But they pay me nicely. I feel like a prostitute.
And my Mom is thriving. She is enjoying having company 24/7. I just knew she would be fine. I am thrilled, to say the least.
L,
Sas and her campers
It all sounds great for you SAS. I am so happy for you. :)
Boy does this sound familiar. My office seems to have a swinging door. If the boss isn't firing people, they leave of their own accord. Our latest girl, who was quite good, quit two weeks ago. Her attitude seemed to change after she got her 90 day review. Honestly, it does make you wonder how firms/medical practices survive the kind of nonsense that goes on. Good for the girl. She got out while the gettin' was good.Quote:
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haha! Glad to hear that the dog has not taken up the habit. :D Maybe in time you might be able to share some pictures of your new canine co-tenant. Trevor and Andy send their condolences to Lucy. I am sure they would rather I brought two more cats into the fold than two dogs. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by sasvermont
Hooray! Fingers and toes are all crossed. I hope that if this is where you are meant to be that all of the pieces will come together!Quote:
Originally Posted by sasvermont
You can't ask for more! I know this gives you enormous peace.Quote:
Originally Posted by sasvermont
Thank you for the updates. I/we look forward to more in the future and wish you only the best!!!
Sallyanne, I don't comment every time you update, but I sure have been interested in how things are going for you. I'm so glad that at least the concerns about your mother are out of the way now. Isn't it great that she is thriving, already, in her new home?
I do wish you all the best. I hope that everything is going to work out for you soon so that you can put the paycheck worry out of your mind next.
I know a ton of people who would gladly be good references for you! ;)
Best of luck.
Logan
More and more pieces falling into place for you. The right job will be there for you too...one that pays sufficiently and has all the benefits you need along with a amicable working environment.
As long as you are considering ways to bring in extra income, how about writing a novel...say set in a small law office environment? I just watched the Nanny Diaries on DVD which was loosely based on the experiences of the author(s) as a nanny if I remember correctly. I'm thinking that you've got a much better tale to tell. The bits and pieces we've been exposed to here are riviting to say the least.
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Rachel has a good idea there! :) I picture a novel that would ultimately wind up on TV as a series - sort of like The Office. :D You could even play yourself! Now there is a lucrative career! ;)
I worked today, until 2:30. I have "trained" the new person, and I hope to have this job behind me. If I never hear from any of them, it will be too soon. I am exhausted.
I have not landed a new job as I really haven't spent any time looking. The vet implant place hired the part time person, full time. It just wasn't meant to be.
I will take a little time for myself and then re-evaluate the situation. I feel a vacation coming on, soon. I have to be very careful with my money, so a mini vacation, should be just fine. Maybe Montreal.
I hope to wake up tomorrow, with a renewed sense of self. I am going to consider myself on a long, long weekend. I have promised myself to never stay in any job, ever again, when it starts to go south.
Lots of "I"s in this post, eh?
Thank you for listening.
Tomorrow is a new day. Life is or can be short, so I plan to improve "on it" ;) !
Sallyanne I was just thinking this morning of posting to this thread and asking how you were doing. Glad the crazy place is behind you. A mini vacation sounds terrific. Who will watch the campers while you are gone? I hope things are continuing to go well for your mom. Thanks for checking in. :)
Sallyanne I missed some of your updates- I am very sorry.
I keep my fingers crossed. Too bad your vacation can't get you over here!
This is great news, Sallyane! You can finally relax and think about what to do next, you'll have time to yourself now, and time to look for jobs without panicking - enjoy your weekend!
I'm also glad to hear you mom likes her new place.
A mini vacation sounds like a very good idea. It'll do you good to get away from it all!
All the best of luck!
Sallyanne - it's great to read a lot of "I"'s in a post from you. It's been everyone and everything else up to now. YOUR TURN! :)
There's a PTr in Montreal also - so that might be a nice idea.
I'm so glad that you got out of your job on your time table! Gotta love when they keep wanting to keep you there to train the new person.
I think some time off might be really good for you. Rest, relax, rejuvenate... you deserve that.
I'll be thinking of you, and hope that things go well. Look forward to reading more positive updates! Big hugs to you!
Have you ever noticed that "I" comes before "U" in the alphabet?
"I" cannot do anything for "U" unless "I" am in a good place mentally.
Enjoy your mini-vacation - you deserve it.
Boy, do I ever like that philosophy! And Sallyanne, listen to it. You deserve it. I have followed your post somewhat and I can tell ya, you need some R&R. Take it. And tell us all about it when you get back.Quote:
Originally Posted by gini
I'm so glad to hear everthings going well for you. You do sound so much
better &" brighter" now in your updates. :) Enjoy your vacation, you deserve it.
Like the others, I too was wondering how everything has transpired as you wound down your involvement. What is most important is that you made it though these last months and now can have the opportunity to explore any or all options which come your way - including that mini vacation.
Happy days are here again, the sky is full of cheer again...
Relaxation is #1 on my daily routine. Right now (8:30 AM) I am on the sofa, laptop on the lap, watching the news, Lucy is resting on my right arm as I type and I am figuring out my easy schdule for the day.
I am still officially unemployed. I am working part time for my accountant (tax person), filling in for the two employees she uses during tax season. Both employees have had doctor and vet appointments galore, so I have had a fair amount of time filling in.... I have also been taking care of my own doctor appointments, new glasses etc. so that when I do get to the point of full time employment, many of the maintenance for me will have already been taken care of....for awhile.
I am also doing some "house sitting" and have two more jobs between April 1st and April 30th. The house sitting thing I can do while working full time, so that is no problem.
I have retirement arrangements but I don't see myself totally retired at this point. I still have my mitten business and plan to activate that a bit more and start selling those darn mittens! I am doing ok.
I have heard from my former employer a couple of times, via voice messages, but have not chosen to return the calls. Boy do I not miss them.
So, in general, I am taking it easy, looking at new jobs as they blow by, working part time, being careful with my spendings and enjoying my pets! I am planning my garden for the spring (assuming the ice will melt by then)....reading, doing Sudodu puzzles....reading more.....sleeping in.....such a luxury.
I did go on a mini vacation to Pennsylvania a couple of weeks ago, for several days. I ended up in Lancaster County. I have a friend there so the time was filled with lots of comfort and family. The farms in the area of Lancaster are works of art.
Love,
SAs :D
Your day sounds so relaxing that I find myself yawning. :D Sallyanne I wish I had known you were in Pennsylvania. Robyn and I surely would have loved to see you. Let us know next time, OK? I am glad things are going so well. Enjoy these days of luxury. ;) Hope your mom is doing well too.
Oh what a change in your posting from about 4 months back! Wonderful, you definitely needed this time to regroup, rest up, and spend time with the furkids! I am HAPPY for you!
My goodness, you have been reading my mind again. I was just thinking about you today and wondering how things have been going. Sounds like all is right with the world. Good for you. I'm enjoying the fact that you didn't return those phone calls. Now who's in charge! HA
Sas, it's good to hear that you finally got some time to relax. :)
It's nice to hear that you got to go to PA for a little vacation.
I'm surprised that you didn't fit in any Pet Talk meetings while you were down there.
I'm making plans to meet with Cookiebaker on April 12th. We'd both love it if you can join us.
Let me know if you're interested in a little PT meeting with us. :)
Yes, SAS, believe it or not, I am only 40 minutes from Lancaster. Next time your around, I would love to have you over, or we could take you to lunch! Glad you are relaxing...sounds very peaceful at your place. Good for you :)
I know this thread is very old, but I have been thinking about you a lot lately and possibly others have as well. How have you been? Can you give us an update? I think it's time to dust off this thread. :)
Thanks for thinking of me Pam. I am fine. I am trying to land a full time job in some other area of work. I am not going at it with as much enthusiasm as I could, as I am doing little part time jobs for friends...i.e. child sitting, house sitting, house painting (all under the table, if you will). I came close to landing a job with a dentist's office. I was over qualified.....according to them. I really thought it was going to fly, but oh well. Something will work out.
Right now I am living on savings, earning a wee bit of money, keeping the spending to food, gas, and overhead only. I am running low on cash right now and within the next month, I need to get a full time job. I refuse to live on credit.
My Mom is OK. She is still in the living facility in St. Albans. I see her a couple of times a week. They are being very nice to her but have not done her any favors by allowing her to gain 25 pounds in less than six months. She is now on insulin as a result of gaining the weight. At this point, she is OK with insulin, so that works for me too. I went to see her last night and didn't have the best of visits. She has short term memory loss and didn't remember that several of her brothers and sisters had died years ago. Each time I tell her, she gets upset all over again. I have tried just not saying anything and then she says that they never call her...and asks why. It's a no win situation.
The cats are fine. Juni recovered from her dental proceedures and the other two critters are fine. Lucy still loves to go outside when I do my lawn work. Right now we have had rain several days in a row - so we all have cabin fever.
I have heard from a couple of the jokers I worked with. I didn't return the calls. I did answer the phone the other night when my former boss, Julie, called. We did the small talk thing for several minutes. She mentioned that the guy who eventually took my position, left after three months (but they really loved him)....and now they have a new person and after two weeks, they really love her too! Julie also told me the person I worked most closely with, left the firm a week ago. My comment was "oh, he was such an integral part of the firm"....... Chris was a great co-worker and worked very closely and nicely with me. I swore if he ever left the firm, I would too. I beat him to it. Chris was the kid I had adopt the kitty I found on the road. We will always have that connection. I haven't talked to Chris, but figure he had enough of them too.
Thanks for thinking of me. I am doing fine, although a little worried about living out the rest of my working world time, in a less than highly paid fashion. Pensions and retirement funds just aren't what they had been....it's down right scary to think that the economy is what it is......and getting worse.
I am off all medications and no longer see a therapist. I am relaxed and waiting for the next chapter of my life to begin........
:love:
Sas and her campers
Sallyanne, if the economy has no place for you there is something even more seriously wrong with it than I thought before. People should get over that "over-qualified" thing. If you put up with it they should too. I keep my fingers crossed and Filou and Tigris said they will do it too.
Love and hugs, also to my favorite girl kitties.
"Overqualified" :rolleyes: I hate hearing that excuse from people that don't want to hire me.
Im glad your life is going a wee bit better though, dispite minor setbacks. Good luck in your job search!
*HUGS* and prayers on the way that things keep getting better for you.
Yes, the "overqualified" excuse has been used to death. However, your attitude is so positive and cheerful that I just know the Universe has something glorious and wonderful in store for you. I wish you and yours the best in life. :)
SallyAnne - Add me to the list of those who dislike the term "overqualified". At least one court has ruled it is a euphemism for "Old". And how silly the concept -- we want the very best qualified candidate for the job -- as long as they are not TOO qualified. I talk about it when I do training on the regulatory enviornment with human resource professionals. Why would you not want someone who is over-qualified??? I hear all the excuses -- they will leave, be bored, want more money, etc. Things that never occur with the "underqualified." :rolleyes: Once in a while someone will admit it is because the candidate might take their job!
My husband recently changed jobs. He wanted something without the stress and pressures that he had for many years. He found a job he wanted and got the "overqualified" response.
He went back at them with a list of reasons why he should be hired -- over-qualifed or not. He addressed what he assumed to be their concerns (salary, longevity, etc) and was hired.
I wish you luck and if there is anything I can do to help...please let me know.
SAS thanks for checking in. Your note as always is upbeat and I am glad that you are having a restful time while you wait for some type of regular employment. You are correct when you say "something will work out." I am very confident that it will. Let's just say that after your past experience I can see why you might be extremely careful the next time.
Isn't that the truth. I think that is probably a major problem for some employers!Quote:
Originally Posted by Edwina's Secretary
I'm glad that things are humming smoothly in Camp Vermont with all furry campers doing well and your mom doing reasonably well in her new environment. Weight gain I think comes with the territory when one goes into such a facility. My mom has also put on weight. Physical inactivity plays a large part. How many calories can you burn off playing Bingo? I too am dealing with my mom's memory loss and she has progressed maybe a little past where you mom is now and confesses to me that she just can't remember things. Unfortunately she does seem to retain sad news and events from long ago, rather than recent happenings, so I have tried to avoid anything that can lead to such a conversation. Her one remaining sister died last July and I have never told her. :(
It seems that there is quite a revolving door at your old place. That in itself speaks volumes. I think that you might have showed Chris how to walk out that door and maybe even gave him the courage to make that move. Keep your chin up. You are one smart gal and somewhere out there is a position where you will shine and get that cash flow going again. (((Hugs))) to you and your furry crew!