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Personally i think it is rude when a person does not even acknowledge you spoke, simply to say nothing is rudeness. Even a simple nod just to let the other person know you are listening or heard them is better than nothing.
As for being called Mom, i understand that, i never felt comfortable calling my MIL Mum when she was alive either, i already have a mother,.so i would not worry on that one too much.
One of my dearest friends is like that. She rarely answers unless it's a subject she wants to talk about. It used to make me so mad. Eventually I had to understand that she just has nothing to say. That's what she told me. Her Mom is the same way so I can see where she gets it. Neither of them like to talk unless it's a conversation about their interests. This does appear to be arrogant and rude but it's the way they are.
I suppose some people are shy and don't feel comfortable speaking around other people too.
I am the opposite. I talk all the time and answer everyone's questions. If someone doesn't answer, I might answer for them. I wish I could minimize the yakking habit I have. I would feel terrible if I didn't answer someone's comment or question to me. I never fail to answer someone unless I'm mad at them and that hasn't happened since my 2nd marriage. If anybody ever wants to talk, I'm your person.:)
I'm with Carole on this one.........100%
"Personally i think it is rude when a person does not even acknowledge you spoke, simply to say nothing is rudeness. Even a simple nod just to let the other person know you are listening or heard them is better than nothing."
Guess it could just be one of those downunder things.
If I had a wife that treated my mother like that, I'd probably bop her.
Maybe you should talk to your son, and see what he says. Maybe then he can have a word with her on the side.;)
As for MIL's, some people say mum, others call them by their first names, others have pet names for them. It's really what both are comfortable with I guess.
Interesting comments. Thanks all for your input.
I guess my views are because of my old fashioned New England/Italian upbringing. Acknowledging a person when they speak to you, was always as important as a please or thank you. With this fast paced world, these most basic responses, seem to be left behind all too often. :( Not expecting (or wanting) a response to every sentence, but a simple acknowledgment at the end is all that's needed.
With my DIL - maybe it's just a carryover from her life when she was growing up. She despised her stepmother (still does), and ignored her whenever possible, from what she has told me. I have also brought up her lack of response to me in a lighthearted manner, but it still continues, so I suppose I might just as well get used to it.
The "Mom" thing is really no big deal - I just threw that in to see what others did. I was closer to my best friend's mother, than I was to my own, and I called her Mom E. till the day she passed away at 95.
Common courtesy isn't old fashioned, it's swept under the carpet by those who don't remember the importance of it.Quote:
Originally Posted by pomtzu
Or maybe were never taught. :(Quote:
Originally Posted by wombat2u2004
Amen!! :)
I would love to see how long she would last if you did the same thing to her?
Just work around her. (I bet you would hear about it in no time.:rolleyes:)
I just can't be that way - it's just not the way I am...........Quote:
Originally Posted by RICHARD
Hey - she makes my son happy - so that's what counts when all is said and done. Afterall - she married him - not me. I just came along with the deal as an accessory at no charge! :eek::D
I called my mother in law "Nan", which is what the kids called her. I call my father in law what the kids call him too. I never felt comofrtable calling them mom or dad. So I wouldn't be insulted over not being called "mom" myself, just so long as whatever name used is said with respect.
As for not acknowledging my statements, I'd find it annoying, but if its consistent, I wouldn't worry about it. My own dad doesn't acknowledge what's said too often, so I guess I'm used to it. I'll tell you what's annoying is when you ask him a question and you don't get an answer until 5 minutes later! :p The question could be as simple as "Are you hungry?" and you wait and wait, til you give up and start doing something else, then the answer "nah, I ate sonething a little while ago" He is what he is! :D
You could learn to speak like Donald Duck. That'd really get on her nerves...:pQuote:
Originally Posted by pomtzu