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* HUGS *
Just wanted to let you know that I've been thinking about you and your family and hoping the best. (I have been reading the thread, but just didn't know what to say or how to convey my emotions.)
Life can be so unfair.
Keep fighting and never give up!!!
Stephanie is getting arrested. It may not be today...it may not even be tomorrow, but it will happen. And she has no idea. We went to the sheriff's office today and discussed things with the county deputy and she has an outstanding warrant. The reason they hadn't found it before is because it was under her maiden name (which we supplied for them) The deputy went out to arrest her today but got called back because a prisoner escaped. We talked to a DHS worker and she said as soon as they arrest her we will be notified.
They told the DHS worker that the reason they came and got him is because we were trying to put him in a foster home. She asked if we wanted him and we said yes. But he will first go to his father. This is what worries us. My brother (Nathan's dad) believes everything these people that Stephanie has been living with says. We're worried they'll tell him to turn Nathan over to them so they can take care of him because he doesn't have a job. If Charles is unable to take care of Nathan, we want Nathan here. Which is what we hope will happen. Pray that Charles will let him live with us until he finds a stable job. Charles is unable to take care of a child by himself (he doesn't even know what to do!) I just hope he doesn't hand Nathan over to them.
Anyway Stephanie thinks she's as safe as can be. Little does she know...
Just pray for us that this will work out please.
I think blood relatives come before 'friends' where the DSH is concerned.
This is very hopeful news. I hope Charles really gets his eyes opened with this upcoming arrest.
HUGS
Prayers going out to all.
Sumbirdy, while you wait, how about you start a little journal that some day you can give to Nathan - for his 21st birthday or something. About how he is, what he's like, how much you miss him, etc. Funny stories about himself that he'll enjoy some day ...
That's a good idea. I already have a letter written to him for his 16th birthday (I wrote it before all this happened). It tells him how proud of him I am and how much I love him.Quote:
Originally Posted by Karen
Catty1-they said that the parents can say who they want their child to stay with. Charles and Stephanie both have equal rights when it comes to Nathan. But they said they were going to place him with Charles first unless Charles doesn't want him or is unable to take care of him. We believe Charles is unable to take care of him because he can't keep a job and doesn't have a steady income. They said they would like Nathan to be somewhere he knows and somewhere that he has stayed for a while (he was with us all his life until this past Saturday) So I'm thinking he has a very good chance of being placed back with us. We are also getting a lawyer through legal aid and are going to pursue guardianship.
I would really love to see her face win the policeman show up at her door to arrest her. (although I know that's not going to happen)
P.S. I've shared so much with you all these past few days that I think you can all call me by my first name-Summer.
Oh yeah...Stephanie said that by having Nathan helps them get all these "benefits" such as more food stamps, taniff (sp?), ect... but what I don't think they understand is that this stuff is for Nathan and there won't be any left over for them if they use it correctly. So what I'm wondering is what will she let Nathan go without so that she can get more? She doesn't even want him. That's obvious.
I would think the DSH would make sure what kind of care Charles can provide for Nathan...I don't think they would just 'dump' him in there.
I'm glad you guys are seeking guardianship...hopefully, Charles will have to prove he can support and look after Nathan.
HUGS!
Nathan will be thrilled with that letter one day! :)
Congratulations!!! :DQuote:
Originally Posted by sumbirdy
(Let's just hope that she doesn't lurk on here!)
Good luck on getting the guardianship instead of Charles.
*hugs*
You and Nathan are in my prayers, Summer. I do hope all ends well and Nathan gets back to you ASAP where he obviously belongs. He's such a beautiful child and I know this must be so heart-breaking for you :( I can't imagine the pain you are going threw.
The other county will not come pick her up until the 23rd. This county can only hold her for 72 hours. So the earliest will be the 20th. Which is next Friday. DHS said they will keep a close eye on her. She and Nathan are supposedly moving out of the other people's house in with Charles today. I just hope their not just telling us that and then signing him over to someone else. I hope Charles doesn't do anything stupid. Charles says he just wants have his own family and I think that he just wants to feel like he's somebody important and that he doesn't care who he hurts to get it. This is not only hurting me and my parents, in the long run it will be hurting Nathan because she is an abuser and all Charles will do is turn his back to it. That's what he's good at, turning his back to whatever he sees her do wrong and then denying he ever saw it, both to other people and to himself.
My other brother and his wife and my other nephew Eli are coming Saturday so I'm hoping that that will ease some of the pain (although I know it will be far from erasing it.) I just don't know how I can act like I'm happy when their here when I just feel like crying all the time.
Thank you all for listening and being here. You cannot imagine the help you all have been.
crow_noir-if she's lurking and has read this then she would have been long gone by now.
She's always claimed to love animals but gets really mad when they lick her (even if it's just on her hand. That doesn't make sense) She volunteered for a local animal rescue here and they said she couldn't work for them anymore because when they would have the low cost spay/neuter clinic she would put the animals back in dirty cages.
Yesterday, dad got a restraining order against him from Stephanie. (Me and mom didn't get one) On it she put that he threatened to beat her up and that he harassed her about her child and threatened to take him. (He didn't do any of these things) He is going to court Monday. He said he is going to request that she take a lie detecting test and that he has no problem in taking one. He also said that he has no problem with the restraining order (it did not say he had to stay away from Charles or Nathan) He has no problem with staying away from her, he doesn't want to be around her anyway. (I don't see who would.) Anyway, here's to hoping all goes well...
Today is Nathan's birthday. He is 1 year old and I miss him so much. We had so much planned for today.
Sweetie, whenever you guys get Nathan back, you can have the "birthday" party the next Saturday. He won't know the difference, and that'll give you something to look forward to!
I've thought of that as well...he won't remember it anyway.Quote:
Originally Posted by Karen
Having a baby here actually makes it harder. I keep comparing...awww, Nathan does that too or wow, Nathan really does that different. I love Eli just as much as I love Nathan but they are so different. I wish Nathan could have been here now to spend time with his cousin. That would've been fun to watch. I still miss him so much and it hurts. It's like fire in my heart. Who would put their baby in that situation where they are torn from everything they know in one instant. Why not do it slowly? We always knew he would go to his daddy eventually but we thought it would be slowly, not just BAM! and he's gone. They just ripped him away from the only home and the only people he knows. I'm just glad that he's always loved people. Maybe this will make it easier on him. I don't want him to be scared...