He contacted me again, what do I do?

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03-13-2007, 04:55 PM
Vela

How hard is it to just stop responding to him? If he doesn't have your number, doesn't have your email, and doesn't know where you live, stop answering him. He has never been abusive to you, per your words, so just stop answering his IMs. If he sends 60+ a day block him, block every name he tries to talk to you with and just don't say anything. It's not that big a deal honestly.

If you can't do that then change your MSN screen name. It's not hard to do. You CAN, you just don't want to, there is a big difference. If it's really that big a deal change it.
03-13-2007, 07:35 PM
wombat2u2004

If he constantly changes names on MSN, and you click on a new message....you should recognise that it's him in the first few words....yes ??? As soon as that happens, just block that name. I mean how long will he keep that up for ??? He will eventually go away.
Wom
03-13-2007, 09:33 PM
columbine

GO TO THE POLICE.

Their hands are tied anyway. The police can't do anything until somebody can PROVE a law has been broken, which is often way too late. Let them know you're being harassed (which is illegal, by the way) and have them refer you to an advocate who can explain to you how to document the harassment.

This is a police matter. You are not required to tell him that you've gone to the police, and it's often inadvisable anyway, as it can send a stalker into a rage. If they don't want to be bothered, insist that they tell you who DOES want to be bothered with crime PREVENTION, whether it's a city office, local nonprofit, or national coalition, so you can get some backup from people who are experienced and know exactly how the law can and can't serve you.

Love, Columbine
03-13-2007, 09:43 PM
Catlady711

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Originally Posted by king2005

He doesn't have any of my current phone numbers & when I block him from MSN he makes a new account.. I tried blocking him when he did the 60+ messages/day BS...

I'm assuming that you mean MSN Instant Messenger? If so then there is an option in there you can change so ANYONE who's not on your buddy list cannot see when you are online OR contact you.

If you mean email, and you like that email addy, then just try something like a different spelling or capitals etc. from kingrattus to something like KiNgrAtTus or Kingrattus25, etc. Or set up something so email not from ppl in your address book go to the bulk/spam folder, and just don't read those.

It depends on which is more important to you, having peace from your ex or keeping your email name.
03-14-2007, 11:29 AM
Cataholic

Just ignore him. Don't respond, don't respond, don't respond. He will give up. I couldn't imagine calling the police over an issue like this.

On my IM program, if someone IMs me, and I don't respond, it just stays lit up at the bottom of my screen. Even if they IM me a million more times, it just keeps showing up down there. Who cares?
03-14-2007, 12:50 PM
king2005

Its really hard to explain. I don't run windows, so i don't run the msn messenger program. I have another program that acts like msn messenger. On Windows (XP, '98, 2000, etc) there is 1 desktop. On Ubuntu (the type of Linux I'm using) I have 4-6 desktops running. What happeneds is that I'll be working in another desktop & everytime he sends me a new message it pops up & gets int he way.. I'll shoo the message away & moments later another will pop up... now getting this 60+ times a day gets really annoying. I also have sound on so I can get my messages & everytime someone sends me a message it beeps as me. + everyone who is messaging me under Kingrattus (I have 3 msn running at once + several other kinds, like ICQ,Yahoo, AOL...) it collects in the same window (its designed to use less ram & less desktop space, its quite nifty)...

So ignoring the messages & letting them collect isn't as easy as one would think. I have 300 users on my msn, so switching over would be a far worse, esp if I missed someone, YIKES...

I'm going to call someone in the 22 devision tonight & see what they say. I was kinda hoping there was something I could say that would make him loose interest & go away.

Maybe I'm being to sensitive casue this is the first guy I dumped & the first one that I hurt (as in dumping him... I did nothing wrong in the relationship). I've only dated 2 guys, Rob & Shawn. I didn't want to hurt Shawn, but gosh he abused substances like crazy & I tried to help & warned him what was going to happen. Blah....
03-14-2007, 03:44 PM
jackie

Like everyone said, just ignore him, and he will get bored and go away.

Honestly, it doesn't sound like that big of a deal, an inconvenience maybe.
03-14-2007, 03:53 PM
king2005

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Originally Posted by jackie

Like everyone said, just ignore him, and he will get bored and go away.

Honestly, it doesn't sound like that big of a deal, an inconvenience maybe.

I never tried to make it a big deal. Its just annoying as heck. I'm not scared of him or anything. There is nothing that he can do that I haven't already gone through, except pester me with his retardedness (not sure if thats even a word, but it is now lol)...
I just didn't want to hurt him, but I wanted him to go away at the sametime.
03-15-2007, 10:12 AM
Pawsitive Thinking

If you reply to anything you will only encourage him to stay in touch. By ignoring him he will get the message......eventually
03-15-2007, 10:16 AM
king2005

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Originally Posted by Brody's Mum

If you reply to anything you will only encourage him to stay in touch. By ignoring him he will get the message......eventually

I didn't reply to him this time. I'll see how it goes. So far he hasn't bombarded me with messages (yet)... hopefully he'll stay away this time.
03-15-2007, 10:20 AM
Pawsitive Thinking

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Originally Posted by king2005

I didn't reply to him this time. I'll see how it goes. So far he hasn't bombarded me with messages (yet)... hopefully he'll stay away this time.

I can block numbers on my mobile - can you? Then you can't reply to things because you won't get them in the first place
03-15-2007, 10:38 AM
king2005

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Originally Posted by Brody's Mum

I can block numbers on my mobile - can you? Then you can't reply to things because you won't get them in the first place

He doesn't have my cell #. he doesn't even know I have a cell phone, or a car, or that I live in another city (well its the same city, but not at the same time).
03-15-2007, 10:48 AM
Pawsitive Thinking

Quote:

Originally Posted by king2005

He doesn't have my cell #. he doesn't even know I have a cell phone, or a car, or that I live in another city (well its the same city, but not at the same time).

oh I see - make sure you keep it that way
03-15-2007, 10:57 AM
king2005

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Originally Posted by Brody's Mum

oh I see - make sure you keep it that way

I plan on it... My work doeen't even know where I live, nor my phone numbers... When people ask I tell them I live in Kitchener, which is REALLY far away (about an hour drive doing 80-100km/hr on the hwy.) & its in the opposite direction I really do live in. The only people that know where I live is a couple family members & Rob's brother(tom). He writes my address on a sticky note, fills out an envelope & leaves the sticky note inside with the mail hes sending me.. Then he deletes it from his computer, so his brother cannot get my address (now him I fear!). When I visit Tom & his folks, they don't tell anyone I was over, casue they don't want to deal with a psycho Rob & its easier on all of us... I'm a private person by nature so I'm good at keeping my info private.
03-15-2007, 11:37 AM
Pawsitive Thinking

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Originally Posted by wombat2u2004

If he constantly changes names on MSN, and you click on a new message....you should recognise that it's him in the first few words....yes ??? As soon as that happens, just block that name. I mean how long will he keep that up for ??? He will eventually go away.
Wom

Is that from experience Wom? ;)

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