Alright Pet Talk, I do not know how to handle this situation on my own, so I am making this thread in hopes of getting some good advice/insights. It is a little on the personal side, but I really need help so I am not going to hold back any longer. I am not sure how to present this situation in the best way, I will do my best to be clear and to the point, but I might ramble inbetween, LOL!
Ok so....back in August I met this wonderful young man at the state fair when my friend Katie and I went to the Brad Paisley concert. We hit it off right away. We talk almost every night on the phone, usually for about 2 hours max sometimes less on school nights- one night we talked on the phone for 7.5 hours- that was exhausting, he fell alseep on the phone, that was soo cute, LOL. We hang out a lot, but school and work and living locations make it hard from time to time. Every Friday I go to his football games and sit with his dad (the coolest man on Earth!!)- we talk about all sorts of stuff inbetween yelling and shouting at the football team- we've had lots of serious conversations about Matt (and other things). See, his parents are divorced- they went through the divorce a while ago when Matt was little, but it really did a number on him and he is still just as upset over it as he was when it happened. To add the the horror of the divorce, his mom just had a baby 3 weeks ago. I did not hear from him for about 1 and a half weeks after the baby was born because he was so upset he could not bring himself to talk to anyone. I can tell that he is clearly distraught over this and I want to do my best to help him through his stressful situation and offer my support in this time of need. What is really bothering me is the fact that he will not talk to anyone about this ordeal, he keeps to himself and lets it fester inside of him...which is a horrible thing to do! I want him to talk to someone so he can get it off his chest. What should I do? How to I get him to talk to me about this without coming off as a psychologist? His dad told me at the last football game on Friday that he is going to try to get to him to see a professional councelor. I feel so useless and helpless, I feel I need to do something, but I don't know what to do. I have no idea what divorce is like, my parents are still together, and my mom did not give birth to a baby at age 42 either...so I can't even imagine what he is going through. ANYONE have ANY ideas for me? I need all the help I can get, I feel like a useless sack of potatoes for not doing anything. Thank you!!
I'm so confused!
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