My dog is afraid of my husband - need advice

[ramanth]

*edit again* I had it in my head that JP was her boyfriend. He's her husband. D'oh!


I had permission to cross-post this:

London still doesn't like JP! We are both running out of ideas, and I'm getting more and more worried that this will turn into fear aggression. He won't let JP get near him. And he darts around the house wildly when JP is home. When JP comes home from work (in the middle of the night when everyone is asleep) I'll often wake up to hearing London growling at him. He even tried to bit him once when JP tried to pet him.

Yet, he let my dad pet him the very first day I had him. I can't figure it out, JP thinks he was beaten, but I'm unsure about that. But if so, perhaps it was by someone that looked like JP? London is as sweet as he can be when its just me and Shelby home. But when JP is home, he is staying in Shelbys bed room, and highly nervous the entire time. I know it takes time for a dog to warm up to a new home, but I feel London is getting more and more afraid of JP :\ We have tried everything we can think of. He even shaved his beard off to look different. I dont want to give up on my dog, and get another one, but I dont know what to do, other than give him more time. He's got untill late winter/spring time to like JP.

I absolutly hate this. I've nervoused myself into nosebleeds thinking about this. But I dont want London to have to spend his weekends scared to death. And JP doesn't want us to get a shelter dog if we do this, because they all have 'issues'. bah.

And a picture of him, hiding between me and the stove while I was 'trying' to cook breakfast.

*edit*
I grabbed some of her answers in her other post. I also shared with her a link to PT so I hope she joins and chimes in.

I feed London. along with the re-housetraining, grooming, playing, taking on walks, and, everything!

JP already mentioned that if he was forced to spend time with him alone, perhaps that would help.

As far as us sitting on the couch and trying to get London to approace us, we've tried that on a daily basis. He still stays in the bedroom (down the hallway, still in eye sight of us) and refuses to come out.

We've also tried the, me having London hold still while Jp slowly comes up, talking gently trying to pet him. He gets within 3 steps from us, and London will struggle with all he's got to get away from me. I just can't hold him, and I dont want to tramatize him. We haven't tried that daily, more like every few days, still nothing!

Is there anything I haven't tried?