Seriously need opinions

[carole]

Kim sweetie I really feel for you, your thread made me shudder, to think what has been done to you, just irks me so much, and to think it is happening on a regular basis, irks me even more.

I sure can understand how you feel about suing them, I would want to as well, as to make sure they don't get away with it, but like others have said, is it really going to help you in the long-run, what has been done emotionally to you cannot be fixed by money, but I do believe if you won, the satisfaction in knowing they did not get away with it, would help you immensley.,but it is only something you and you alone can decide.

I Cannot imagine anyone saying these things about you, the Kim I know and care about, is a wonderful person.

Your amazing talent just blows me away, its obvious from your posts you are a very intelligent person, who also has a big heart, full of compassion.

Kim I know its easy for me to say, but please try not to feel bad about yourself, you are truely admired here and just you know what a great person you are, and their opinion counts for absolutely NOTHING.

Having said that, I can hear your pain expressed here, and I don't know how to alleviate it for you, but just want to reach out and give you a great big virtual HUG.

[catnapper]

Thanks everyone! You have made me feel so much better. honestly.

I called someone today that was given to meas a possible business lead. The guy was very nice and we chatted about where I've worked. I reluctantly told him about my last company and he laughed and said, "I worked there many years ago and couldn't wait to get out of there. I stayed as far away from BI as possible." I had to laugh too. So the guy was even making men's lives miserable!

And I had heard through the grapevine that my old company had LOST a client's furniture. They had received it in their warehouse and then *poof* it disappeared. I LOVE to hear stories like that! LOL. So maybe they ARE getting their due in little pieces.

[K9soul]

I don't have any advice on the legal question but I wanted to say I agree that working on your damaged self confidence will really take time and effort and I know it is very difficult. I think destroying someone's self confidence is one of the most cruel things a person can do to another person, especially when it seems so deliberate like you described. It makes my heart ache that people can be so horribly cruel.

I know it is still affecting you and I imagine it will for some time, but I think you're conquering it bit by bit. As you have seen, PT is a wonderful source of support and encouragement, I think sharing here is a nice aid to your healing process. I truly hope and pray you continue to heal, keep fighting it and don't ever give in to the feeling that you are of low value.

[kimlovescats]

Originally posted by catnapper
Thanks everyone! You have made me feel so much better. honestly.

I called someone today that was given to meas a possible business lead. The guy was very nice and we chatted about where I've worked. I reluctantly told him about my last company and he laughed and said, "I worked there many years ago and couldn't wait to get out of there. I stayed as far away from BI as possible." I had to laugh too. So the guy was even making men's lives miserable!

And I had heard through the grapevine that my old company had LOST a client's furniture. They had received it in their warehouse and then *poof* it disappeared. I LOVE to hear stories like that! LOL. So maybe they ARE getting their due in little pieces.

See, God is revealing his purpose to you already!!!

[wolflady]

Kim, I'm glad you're feeling better about this, and everyone's responses here have been wise. When I first starting reading, I thought of my own situation in my previous company and at the time I never even considered suing. Then, after the fact, a friend of mine was talking about it and brought up the question of why wasn't I bringing a lawsuit of discrimination against my employer? I seriously thought about it, because it's a fact that they didn't have to lay me off when they did (last May - so it's been 1 year and 5 months now). It was a "political" thing because the "people in power" didn't like me because they didn't like my dad or the fact that I was a woman. One of my colleagues was laid off (he was vietnamese) and another one of my colleagues (who was a woman in an upper management role - bad combo) was also laid off before I was. I was so mad at the time, and I think I will always be bitter because why is it that the a$$holes get away with crap like that and make a ton of money??!!
Anyway, I have since found another job in the tech industry and am doing really well. I also had some sweet victory at hearing that my previous company finally bit the big one! I don't feel sorry for them, and I hope the jerks that caused the company to go down get their just reward.

Think of it as a good thing...you're better than them, they didn't deserve you and you are so much better off being away from that situation. Who knows what lies ahead? You just may come across something even bigger and better. I know I did!
**hugs**
Karen

P.S. Not sure if these apply, but my company has jobs available!!!

http://egain.com/about_us/job_listings.asp

[catland]

I agree that unless you happen to have great documentation and possibly even witnesses, that it woun't cause you more harm than good.

On October 30th you should CELEBRATE!!! Go out to dinner or do something else nice for you or your loved ones (including your kitties.) Make it the anniversary of getting your life back and being free from such poisionous people. Don't dwell in the past, you know you are so much better than those people. Aren't you glad that your kitties have you for their meomie instead of someone like your awful ex-boss?

If you want, come over to Thursdays in the Dog House. We're serving up mini-bottle drinks and carving pumpkins.

[KYS]

I can not answer you about the law suit.

I can't believe how cruel your boss was to you.
What a horrible place for you to have to work
under those conditions.
Be glad you are out of their, nobody deserves
to be treated like that.