You've already gotten a lot of good advice on how to tame them and I can't really think of more to add on that, but as for your toy question, that might be something else they aren't used to, or they could be like my tiel, Dawn. She has never really cared about toys, she's never really played with anything I put in her cage. She's totally disinterested in mirrors, bells, hoops, and so on. She is my first tiel but I had parakeets before her, and they were always so into their toys that I was surprised at her disinterest.

I have thought about getting one of those toys with a hair-like tassel on the end, or I saw one that was part of a peacock feather hanging toy, because Dawn does seem fascinated with my hair and with the rope tassel on her jungle gym. The only other things she seems to show interest in are cords/strings.