I have to say I think Aly's approach here is the best one and very commendable. She is offering all the help she can that is in Kitana's best interest and an invitation to learn more. I know all people are different, but I know when I was young I would have been far more likely to withdraw and retreat from someone trying to teach me using harsh words and criticism, and much more likely to listen and learn from someone who was kind and supportive.

A lot of younger people's feelings and beliefs come from how they have been taught by the adults in their lives. They can learn better ways, but if they feel verbally attacked it is more likely they will throw up their defensive walls and the true message of what you might want to teach is lost. I shouldn't just say young people because I believe a lot of people are this way, of all ages. What if Catboy took Aly's message to heart because he didn't feel threatened, and he learned something from her? Then she will have done the most for both him, Kitana, and maybe any future pets he has as well.

This is not intended as admonishment for anyone, but hopefully just a different viewpoint to consider. I know sometimes I don't think of other viewpoints until someone points something out, but I think it's very important to try to be open to them. This is certainly not in any way a claim on my part that I always make the right judgement calls

I think it did actually take some courage to come back and let us know about Kitana after knowing how it upset us. I'm glad he did though. I'm very glad to know she is safe now.