Donna, I hate to be the one to tell you that it doesn't matter how many miles are between you and the "button pusher". The buttons will always go off if you let them ... there are 3,000 miles between me and my family and they can still manage to do it!

Over the years we have learned not to celebrate holidays together as a family. They are just too emotionally charged and never end well. We try and celebrate either earlier or later but definitely never on the "day"... it just creates to many problems.