I don't know what it is, but sometimes they can be sooo insensitive, then when you bring it up, it becomes clear that they had no idea that what they were doing was hurtful. Make sure you tell Steve that you were hurt by his lack of sympathy for you. When you attend the funeral of someone you know, even if it was someone you weren't best mates with or related to, it is going to be emotionally draining, and quite hard to deal with. The last thing you want after that type of experience is to be alone.

I think you two really have to talk!

Hugs!!!