Cleanin up ater your baby passes...

[moosmom]

I'm so sorry for your loss. You'll know when the time is right. When my soulmate RB MooShoo passed 2 years ago, I slept with the bag of his ashes wrapped up in his baby blanket with his scent on it for almost 6 months before I was able to finally put everything away.

Everyone grieves differently and at their own pace.

Your Shadow was a beauty and reminds me so much of my 20 lb Tuxedo Spike.

[fragrancehound]

How do you deal with the overwhelming guilt? I feel so horrible that I could not be there in his time of need. I feel like crap for not being there when he passed. It is killing me inside.

[Karen]

How do you deal with the overwhelming guilt? I feel so horrible that I could not be there in his time of need. I feel like crap for not being there when he passed. It is killing me inside.

Do not feel guilty. You loved him the best you could his whole time with you. Do not focus on his last minutes, but on the years of happiness you had together, that's much more important. Picture him happy and whole, and know you will see him again some day at the Rainbow Bridge.

[Shady]

How do you deal with the overwhelming guilt? I feel so horrible that I could not be there in his time of need. I feel like crap for not being there when he passed. It is killing me inside.

Try to cut yourself some slack, you're being incredibly hard on yourself, if it helps any we all do this. I know there is guilt, mine was/is not being able to save them. I felt I failed them. In time you'll come to accept that you did what you had to do but, Shadow had to go, he couldnt wait for you to be with him...his suffering became too great..and if you stop and think about it, you'll realize you wouldnt have wanted him to suffer one second longer than he needed to, under any circumstances.

[kaycountrygal]

It is so hard when we lose a beloved pet/companion. I am so sorry for you loss. I believe you will see Shadow again one day. My condolences!

[maid25cats]

I'm sorry for your loss. like the others said everyone grieves different.
I'm sorry you weren't there with your baby but he knows you loved him and you took
good care of him for eight years. He will be waiting for you at the rainbow bridge.
He was a beautiful big boy!
I don't want to upset you but are you having him cremated?

When i lost my kitten I cried everydayfor a month straight.

I ended up getting another kitten only because my other cat stopped eating.
she lost about 2 pounds and she was looking all over the house for the kitten.
They didn't get along but she was grieving for her too.
The new kitten didn't take her place but she helped both me and the cat heal.

My thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time.

[catmandu]

It is sad when Our Cats become Angels , but this sometimes is a neccesary part of life.
If Joseph Moose MichaelPrincess and My Siamese had not passed on , I would not have been able to take in Malcolm, Josephine, Scrapster , Ebony Beau Tubster Two and Mikey Fluffy Tail
I have never had ony one Cat, so after I put thier special toy and blanket with My New Angels
the New Cats share thier toys.
You Shadow will always love you and will be waiting at a Special Place in Paradise for you.
One Fine Day

[Laura's Babies]

I lost Boo in October and I still cry for her, still miss her so bad it hurts.. All of us here know how you feel, you are not alone in your grief. ((((HUGS)))))