I have 2 litter mates myself now. They are 7 months old. They are into everything but they are so much fun & so funny. The bigger of the 2 a male is a complete lover. The second you touch him he is purring like a motor. His sister, the smaller one, is a lover when she wants to be but she is wild wild wild. We are forever telling her to get down cause she climbs everything. She is always on top of the cabinets, closets, and even to the top of the curtains. She talks and talks and talks. I had Pirate (the male) neutered about 3 weeks ago and Opera (the female) is going in to be spayed on December 5th (my birthday nonetheless). I had their mum spayed a few months back and she is now living in her new home with her 'boy' (a little boy of 4) & is completely at home, relaxed & happy. I have Bella & Frost who are mother and son. Bella was abandoned in the corn fields near our house and by the time I got her to trust me she was already pregnant. I had both of them altered as well. No issues at all. I have never ever had an issue with spaying or neutering an animal. While, yes, I worry when they go to get altered, I don't ever think twice about getting it done. After going through mammary cancer with a my Mytzi years ago I would never want to chance that again. I was terrible.

I don't know what the vets were referring to with not being able to help kittens. That is utter nonsense. You just need to ask some of the folks here. There are some people here who have nursed kittens are did anything and everything possible for them from the time they were born. (mom rejected them or there just wasn't a mom for some reason or other) I would say if this one vet says they don't do pre surgery tests then call another. Get more than 1 opinion is always best.

We named our kitty Phoenix for somewhat the same reason. We got Phoenix when she was 3. She had been taken from an abusive home. She has scars are her face from getting kicked & she has major trust & abandonment issues too. She can 'snap' pretty quick but she is 150% better than when we brought her home. It took a long time to be able to touch her without gloves and an even longer time to be able to pick her up. She is still spitty & bitey on occasion and you have to really watch her body language or she will tag you if she is in a bad mood but she is another cat than the one we brought home. When we gave her another chance at a home we said she was like the phoenix being reborn from the ashes only in her case it was being reborn into a life without fear & abuse so that's how she got her name.

Time for me to shut up. As you can see I can go on and on. hehehhe

Keep us posted on what happens with the vets & any new developments with your baby.

Michelle