Hello and thanks for your reply.

I saw Phoenix again tonight and she allowed me stroke her without hissing/spitting at me. I felt really privileged. I'm starting to wonder if the reason she does this is because her ear canal's are starting to open?

Phoenix was a bit early with developing as she opened her eyes around 7-8 days old. (Not sure if that actually is early but the first litters eyes opened a lot later) anyway she slightly reacts to noise which makes her do it. Another theory is that when my sister is out all the lights are off and it's dead silent (my sisters out a lot) so when she gets in Phoenix now has to adjust to the light and noise my sister creates upon returning. Don't know if this could be a reason? Also I thought as she has no litter mates which she once did she is literally alone.

Also mum doesn't sleep with her or sit in the box with her. Today she made her first noise but I noticed mum will talk to her and if she gets no response she walks up and checks her. If she gets a response she will lay down with Phoenix so she can feed which always results is Phoenix passing out in deep sleep. She's out like a light. Mum can sense when she is falling asleep (probably stops suckling) and jumps out and sleeps on the floor facing the box.

Could the fact that mum don't sleep with her make her a bit more scared? She is 12 days old tomorrow but mum does watch her like a hawk.

I was thinking about getting her spayed regardless but could she die when she goes under? As I was told if she does survive she could be a sickly kitty (which may or may not be the case).

I was also thinking about adopting another kitten so she has some company, would this be okay? I'm going to call the vet either tomorrow or monday to book her injections and will fire away questions at the vet so I'm not constantly asking on here.

As you may have noticed, I'm someone that has to be the best at what I do, okay isn't good enough for me... I have to be brilliant at it, so getting it right the first time round is a big deal for me.

I will post pics of phoenix soon when I figure out how to.