We adopted Bentley 2 weeks after Princess died. I needed a kitten to fill the void. We already had Butler, 2 1/2. They are a perfect match. You have to do what is in your heart. Bentley, a boy, was already altered when we brought him home. I am happy that we did it that way. I don't know how we ever lived without him, I would have missed him so much by leaving him at the vet for his operation. Again, do what is in your heart.