What do I do?!??!!

[happylabs]

So sorry this has happened to you. I think I would start out by calling your vet.

Of course if it was me and I had to choose between the cat and the boyfriend, I would probably choose the cat.

[MoonandBean]

It almost sounds like your cat is protecting you if he perceives the physical contact between you and your boyfriend as threatening to you. Maybe you can contact a pet communicator and see if you can get some answers. I know that sounds funny but a lot of people have had good results.

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Good luck. I'm so sorry about this; it sounds heartbreaking.

[ToBeEvergreen]

Check the vet, make sure your cat doesn't have some sort of unseen injury or hurt in him.

If the vet cannot find a problem, you may have to put the cat in another room at night and/or use some sort of spray. There is calming spray for cats, that releases something into the air in your home that can calm the cat.

Try all that you can, and talk to your vet about it. Feliway spray seems to be a common recommendation.

Also, make sure that if it happens again, especially to YOU, you try and see if there is something causing the reaction in the cat, IF the vet says there is nothing wrong. Otherwise, for now, I would be hesitant to let the cat in there with YOU for the night, if this reaction is so unpredictable. Cats, when angry, can really go off, tear some skin.

[Freedom]

Scary things happen and get the cat terrified, so he lashes out.

First the pain of the charlie horse, which must have had BF and you both making unusual sounds, plus it would have changed the chemical scent of BF, then the phone alarm.

Maybe I read to quickly, but I didn't see that the cat ever attacked you at all, just BF. That is the source of the strange things which happen, and kitty gets frightened.

I too would pick the cat and ditch the BF.

[Medusa]

Scary things happen and get the cat terrified, so he lashes out.

First the pain of the charlie horse, which must have had BF and you both making unusual sounds, plus it would have changed the chemical scent of BF, then the phone alarm.

Maybe I read to quickly, but I didn't see that the cat ever attacked you at all, just BF. That is the source of the strange things which happen, and kitty gets frightened.

I too would pick the cat and ditch the BF.

Yes, that's what I gathered from all of this. Your cat was startled, both times by BF, and he was reacting. He was startled by the sounds and he felt that BF was causing them.

I don't like ultimatums especially one such as BF gave you. Your cat did nothing wrong; he simply reacted b/c he was startled.