The wedding is off, but...

[Asiel]

Sounds like a good idea. Better to get all unresolved issues out of the way before embarking on a new life.

[CountryWolf07]

Eloping seems like a great idea. I've considered it, over a big wedding, for Mike & I, eventually, that is whenever he does pop the question! We talk about it once in a while, even threw in Vegas for a good measure. We both know that our family would probably not be happy with the idea!

[Karen]

Back over 50 years ago, my parents looked at each other and said, "We have two choices, we either fill the church or elope." They opted for the church wedding, all the relatives, fluff and stuff and everything, my mom's sister opted to elope instead. To each his or her own!

In my opinion and experience, you do not need to spend a fortune to have a nice wedding, and blowing the bank has no bearing on the success of the marriage. Do what is right for you, and lets others say whatever they want.

[carole]

I wish them both well for their future, i have no idea what has been happening, but it sounds like they have a plan that will suit them both , and as long as they are happy that is what matters, pity you cannot go though,would be an awesome holiday as well, good luck to them both.

[Husky_mom]

Karen just took my words..

no need to spend tons of $.. as long as it makes THEM happy.. others can say whatever.. there´s ALWAYS someone who will complain.. boo hoo.. ..

[Marigold2]

Gosh I wish them all happiness.
Here is another thought.
Why get married at all? Why not just live together and see if that works.
And in five years or seven years if you still want to get married then go ahead and make it a really big splash.
In the meantime you get to save money, get to know yourself and your partner better, see what kind of a team you make. If that person is as loving and supportive, understand, kind, faithful, steady, hardworking, loyal, honest and sober and sane as you thought.
You both have time to grow up, grow stronger, get a better job or education. You then bring more into the marriage.
Getting divorced is expensive and a heartache as anyone who has read Queen of Poop's tread can tell.
Sometimes people live together and find out this is not the right person for them and it is a lot easier then a divorce lawyer and a lot easier on the heart and sometimes they get married and it still does not work but at least in the mean time you take each other for a time in good faith and love and see how it goes.
Love is not enough, especially if one or both is mentally ill or a substance abuser of any kind.
Best of luck ot all.

[Catty1]

And sometimes people live together, do just fine, and THEN get married and it all falls apart. I have no idea why, but I have heard about this a lot.

Whatever works for them, I guess that is the best way to play it.