My divorce is going to court...Update Mar 11

[Catty1]

Gayle, I can understand you being scared...but I think you could call up a good fit of anger as this jerk has likely played games with his lawyer and has held up the proceedings. I can just see you going into that questioning room and giving him the biggest raspberry ever!

(I don't think giant baseball bats are allowed in the room, are they? )

Wear leopard underwear and really long nails....there ya go!

[Laura's Babies]

Hold you head high.. You are WOMAN, LET HIM HEAR YOU ROAR!!!

Remember these few things..

1- The hard part is already behind you... (You put up with that jerk for how many years and survived? This'll be a piece of cake!)

2- DON'T PLAY HIS GAME IN COURT! (meaning, he will be trying to push any and every button of yours that he can, it ONLY works if YOU let it! DON'T LET HIM!!!)... if you change the rules of his game, he looses control!

3- Smile like you know something he don't know (That'll make HIM nervous!) and keep that smile on your face the whole time. Draw a smiley face in your hand to remind you to smile. SMILE WITH CONFIDENCE!!! WALK WITH CONFIDENCE! SIT WITH CONFIDENCE! SPEAK WITH CONFIDENCE! (Always SMILE before you speak!!!)

4- Remember- You ARE worthy!! You ARE unique! You ARE better than he is! and most of all you ARE better off without him!

[gini]

Hold you head high.. You are WOMAN, LET HIM HEAR YOU ROAR!!!

Remember these few things..

1- The hard part is already behind you... (You put up with that jerk for how many years and survived? This'll be a piece of cake!)

2- DON'T PLAY HIS GAME IN COURT! (meaning, he will be trying to push any and every button of yours that he can, it ONLY works if YOU let it! DON'T LET HIM!!!)... if you change the rules of his game, he looses control!

3- Smile like you know something he don't know (That'll make HIM nervous!) and keep that smile on your face the whole time. Draw a smiley face in your hand to remind you to smile. SMILE WITH CONFIDENCE!!! WALK WITH CONFIDENCE! SIT WITH CONFIDENCE! SPEAK WITH CONFIDENCE! (Always SMILE before you speak!!!)

4- Remember- You ARE worthy!! You ARE unique! You ARE better than he is! and most of all you ARE better off without him!

What a lovely gift Laura has given you - great advice. I can only
add an Eleanor Roosevelt quote "no one can make you feel inferior without your consent"

All of us are behind you - this will soon be over and you can celebrate the beginning of the rest of your life!

[Laura's Babies]

( Oh, if you really need something to make to smile in court, just look at him and remember what my Mama use to say

"IT'S OK TO BE STUPID! YA JUST SHOULDN'T OPEN YOUR MOUTH AND LET THE REST OF THE WORLD KNOW IT!".

.... THAT saying right there has pulled me through so many rough spots with a smile on my face that puzzled everybody else when I should have been fuming I was smiling.)

[Karen]

Or, picture me there just walking past and growling at him in my best German shepherd growl ... That'll give you a grin!

[phesina]

Gayle, we're all with you in that courtroom.. including felines, canines, whatever-ines!

[Queen of Poop]

OMG, between Laura and Karen he doesn't stand a chance!

Thank you ALL so very, very much. Your support and advice are so truly appreciated.

Had my prep yesterday, the questioning will proceed Monday. Unless, in the next 2 days they come up with a full and proper settlement. If he fails to show for the questioning things will escalate very quickly, much to his displeasure I'm sure. The time for being nice and patient has passed. My lady lawyer is like a dog that's been teased long enough by the bone just out of her reach, she's ready to get busy.

The stress is wreaking havoc on my IBS. But I keep telling myself, it's almost over, it's almost over.