You should ask your lawyer these questions if you are paying him/her. I would think also that your lawyer should be present for the discovery. I live in Pennsylvania and we did not do that when I went through my divorce.

The two attorneys talked between themselves and I believe my lawyer asked me questions and she filled out the papers while I was there in her office.

Make sure you have a divorce lawyer, one that handles divorces on a regular basis. Never get a general lawyer for anything important.

I work in the legal system as a secretary to a administrative law judge for the state.

I wish you well. It is not easy. It has been 8 years since I went through mine. The ex left me for his old college girlfriend. If there are things you feel strongly about keeping, be firm. I didn't back down and ended up with the house, my car and $600.00 a month child support. All he cared about was being with the girlfriend.

Good luck!